V.Amberlee

There are an abundance of support groups (both group meetings and internet groups) specifically set up by and for sole parents. They even have the occassional professional on hand to assist with advice/support. My advice to those in Australia is to utilize those support systems available if needed that can guide you through this life challenging situation.

V. Amberlee- I think you are a tad oversensitive- a sure sign of stress!

V Amerlee

You say neither parents should move far away from each other. Robert of course agrees.
Ok but have you ever sat for a week or even a full day in the Federal Family Court? Have you ever worked in family law courts? I have.

As nice as that may sound what the truth is we are looking at a huge percent of these people having orders and difficlties with domestic volience.

In these cases[ and there are many] most times it is recomended by the courts that the offending parent only be allowed to see their children under supervised vists and then not so often it will distress the child.

Now lets say V Amberlee that after many years you meet Mr right. Hes good with the kids and the answer to your dreams.
Your making plans to re marry.
He has three kids from a past marraige and you have two likewise.
You plan to have two more together once your wed.
In this case- Which kids do you think you need to be close to- His kids OR Do you make him move closer to your x for his convience?

After all whos kids are more important his or yours or the ones you plan to have together?

My point is all the kids would be equally as important.
People dont stay still in life and everybodies circumstances change.
A good parent will see their kids as often as possible.
A better parent will make sure those times are filled with love and wonderful memories- but you dont achieve those results by dictating where he may live because he or she may have another she or he with others to consider.

Take it from me try being the second wife with the three kids and the emotional blackmail that the first wife. My friends
marraige was almost destroyed by it. She has his kids too!.
That was my point.
I hope you enjoy OLO. Yes it can get a bit rough but most people are really nice .
best wishes

Good head-kick, V.Amberlee. TammyJo was asking for that one. Don't you cop any rubbish!

I am at a bit of a loss to understand how anything you have so far said since you first joined the forum (on 4 August 2007) could have been claimed to have become monotonous. Even less so by someone who first joined it on only 7 August 2007, and who has only ever posted on this one thread. She must have simply been out looking for a fight. Tell you what, I think she has flagged your (I mean the Forum's) thread on her automatic email alert function, so be ready for her next sally.

Sorry if I'm a bit hard to follow sometimes. It just occurred to me that you may not have been aware of the drama of the two off-topic posts of mine that were taken down after I so shamelessly used your arrival on the forum as cover for my own purposes. This link might either further confuse you, or give you a bit of a giggle, should you wish to fill any gaps in your knowledge: http://forum.onlineopinion.com.au/thread.asp?discussion=884#15541 There are two more posts further down the thread that complete this story about Gordy.

Yeah, TJ has almost certainly got the thread flagged! She's just posted before I could get this in. Next time just don't wait so long to let rip with a head-kick. Head-kicking does wonders for relieving stress, if you have any. Have fun.

Forrest Gump

Your " head kicking" comments are distasteful and offessive. I would not tolerated this type of comment in my own personal or work life and I am not at all surprised some of your posts have been taken down based on your self-confessed bad attitude.

I however, am asking you to please refrain from using that type of violent imaged wording as it is absolutely out of line.

I am sure that V.Amberlee would agree that your type of language and ethos is the very thing we are trying not to teach our children. You do not have to stick up for V. Amberlee- she does quite well on her own.

Oh dear! In an attempt to set at ease one new forum contributor to whom had been given a bit of a rough reception, it seems I have offended an even newer one along the way. You're dead right, by the way, about V.Amberlee not needing to be defended. She is doing very well on her own, but I wasn't so well aware of that at the time I composed my last post.

I assure you, TammyJo, you would never receive the type of comment I made with respect to you in your personal or work life from me, unless I knew you very, very well and that you would take it in the lighthearted spirit in which it was intended. I've never taken a physical, or gratuitous verbal, swing at a woman in my life.

The thing is, this isn't inter-personal or workplace interaction, it is the OLO Forum on the internet, and, protected by claims to commendable personal virtues (if true) of self-reliance and concern for your own children set up in your first two posts, you came in swinging with a personal jibe on your third! Surprise, surprise, you drew fire.

As for head-kicking (as a comment) being offensive, be advised it is Australian idiom. In this context, it is NOT out of line. Indeed, members in general of the National party are frequently referred to as head-kickers, and happily accept the sobriquet. Oddly, enough, amongst Parliamentary staffers, the large majority of whom are women, it is this particular group of (largely) Neanderthal WASP males who are held in the highest regard among all Parliamentarians. I wonder why that could be?

If you read the terms and conditions of your ISP you would also realise the internet is 'adults only' unless there is active parental supervision of children. So much for the guilt trip about what may be being taught to children through so-called 'violent imagery'.

You have come across as a sanctimonious would-be Political Corrector of colloquial Australian language. And a bully.

Welcome to OLO.

To PALE - I don't think it is fair to move a long distance away. It's not fair to the ex or the kids. If I were to remarry, I would not move away from their father, their dad may not see them often but he does see them. If someone is in a situation where it's an issue of safety, well that is different altogether isn't it? Do what you need to do for safety, not for spite.

Robert has proven to have a bigger bark than bite, you've really grown on me. I'd like to hear more about you if you'd like to share. How many children do you have?

Forrest Gump - I may not always understand you but you've made me smile many times. I thought you said you weren't coming back? Couldn't resist us could you :) I'm glad you're back. And your comment was not offensive in any way, it was a figure of speech, TammyJo needs to lighten up. She shouldn't make harsh comments if she doesn't want to hear them in return.

As for TammyJo - she doesn't bother me. I noticed she came back so I think she likes you guys :) I know there are support groups, the computer happens to be the most convenient one for me. I enjoy meeting new people from other areas, this is the computer age after all. I am merely offering my ears to others and if I choose to use the internet to do it, what is wrong with that? I never turned to friends or family for support because of pride & because I felt like a failure. I understand that for some people, talking to a stranger who they never have to meet is easier. It’s not how you reach out to someone, it just that you do