PALE said: "I think this thread might have been fun left to the girls"

As a man who now has shared custody (week about) of my two children after years of court battles which cost me nearly everything, while the mother was funded by Legal Aid, I think too much has been "left to the girls" already, frankly.

This thread is about the joy and pain of being a single parent, and I have experienced as much of both as I would wish on anyone. Most of the pain has been because the laws around child custody and child support and the institutions that administer them are distinctly sexist and routinely discriminate in the vilest way against fathers. Your comments make it clear that you regard paternal involvement in the children's lives as a deletable option, subject to the whim of the mother, yet if I were to suggest that maternal involvement were less than critical, you'd be grossly offended, which makes you a hypocrite and a supporter of a very clear and nasty double-standard. "left to the girls" indeed...

Antisepic
Firstly thanks for the laugh today and for the humour in your response. Love the name and it just fit in so well under the circumstances. Its funny how you get a mental picture of a person I was sure you would be a lady.
I agree women play with the kids visits in order to get attention or what they want.
I am not trying to offend V but my expereince is that first wifes in particlar do this especially when her man has moved on.

This is the only thread I have not been able to really get a handle on[ theres that name again]

When I first read the opening post I thought well if you cant afford to turn the heat up or food for the children- Why dont you get a job.

Then I thought as I dont know if shes able to work perhaps thats a bit hard.
In regards to the other issue which Robert has blown up as usual I am privy to a bit more info.
Taryn used to post on OLO and used to work at pale office. One day a long time ago somebody posted something really personally awful about her and her one week old baby.
Absolutly everybody screamed for it to be taken off.
However' certain people wanted it left up'
Thats when she left. She had to.

AS for the rest. Too many x wives play games and use the kids as a power tool to control.
Nearly all of them do and the courts fall for it!
Its not fair on the men and my friend has experienced similar.
Its stinks and the woman get away with it.
I have notcied many will let them see the kids and even take them for wekends. "Until" the new girlfriend or second wife comes along.
Then hell have no fury.