Dear Anti,

There's another saying:
(bit rude) but funny:

Want to get laid?

Crawl up a chicken's ass and wait!

Gentlemen, again you seem to get a little distracted again .

How about One of you at least answer my question ? If you had a daughter , how would you feel about all the hype over the last 40yrs and its effect on the rational decisions of teenagers, now.

Hanrahan:<"How about One of you at least answer my question ? If you had a daughter , how would you feel about all the hype over the last 40yrs and its effect on the rational decisions of teenagers, now.">

I have two daughters and a son. None of them were or are promiscuous. However, when they were in high school I encouraged them to participate in a health youth group where they talked about sexual activity; sexual safety; peer pressure and personal morals and beliefs.

I think you'll find that teenagers in general are less promiscuous than is commonly believed. By Grade 12, approximately half of boys and girls have had intercourse. Of those, less than 10 % is casual sex. Another approx 10 % is unwanted sex perpetrated against them by a child sex abuser. The majority (over 30 %) of consensual sex is with someone they know well like a long term boyfriend or girlfriend.
FIFTY percent are not sexually experienced or sexually active.

What worries me is 'self fulfilling prophecy'. If adults expect young people to be sluttish then young people are more likely to think that it's the norm and inevitable. It increases pressure on them to think there's something wrong with them for saying, "No".

Have some confidence in them.

Popular music, films, magazines and the like can give youth the impression that sex is common in their age group and they could be left out if they don't act the part as well. Inevitably there is a lot of pressure to comply with the standards of the group the young person is part of or would like to join.

This makes it all the more important that we encourage children to question, think for themselves and recognise the persuaders for what they are. They should be encouraged to take risks - done gradually with with some judgement from caring parents and others adults such as coaches and teachers.

It is the child with the low ego who is always vulnerable, but simple things like a bit of travel and success in independent activities eg cooking, crafts, photography and bush-walking can do to improve ego.

Of course some countries have done their level best to protect their people from the sexual revolution and any other information/liberty that could result in independence of thinking. This article gives an example :

http://www.news.com.au/world/women-caned-for-illicit-set-grateful/story-e6frfkyi-1225832325047

Foxy:"Crawl up a chicken's ass and wait!"

That must be what the little fella is up to with all his leg-humping: just trying to crawl up that chicken's arse. Shame it's beyond his reach...

My Mum was fond of another one, too: "lie down with dogs, wake up with fleas". I bet those chickens do a lot of scratching...

Hamrahan:"If you had a daughter , how would you feel about all the hype over the last 40yrs and its effect on the rational decisions of teenagers, now."

I do have a daughter and I also have a son, both of whom are just on the cusp of adolescence. I have made a point with both of them of making personal responsibility a feature of their upbringing. they are allowed to make their own decisions on all sorts of things, but they know they can and will be called to account if their decisions are poor ones. They spend time thinking about things before jumping in.

When I see them interacting with their friends, I see very little different to what I saw among my own peers. While there is much hype, as you say, and while there is a certain amount of cultural influence on personal expression of sexuality, I expect that their own ewxperiences of early sexuality will be comparable to my own.

For once, I agree with pynchme.

Pynchme

Yes

Cornflower

No

An obsession with protecting self esteem is the problem. Men who sleep around are noted for their arrogance. It takes huge self esteem to treat women as expendable. Women who sleep around can more than match these blokes for arrogance. They like the way that their reputation attracts the type of man who will put them on a pedistool where they think they belong. They think that they are so fantastic that they can sleep around and still be gods gift to men.

I respect men who think "when you have a nice girlfriend, keep her".

I respect women who think "if I want someone who loves me, I cannot afford to look like a slut."

Teaching our children humility is the key.