Marriage is a statement of intent.
That the union is not just one of "This will do for now".
It means our intent is to grow old together and we will be there to
see our grandchildren.

I think marriage is a wonderful union if it is between the right people. I married my childhood sweetheart. In a couple of months we have been married 20 years - we have known each other for over 30 years. We have 4 beautiful children.

I have no regrets, our marriage has been a wonderful experience and a a great union and I am looking forward to growing old with my man. Maybe I am lucky but I am married to the most wonderful man who is a kind and helpful husband and also a great father to our children.

runner,
You say, Agreed it just leaves you lost in sin like every other unbeliever. Your denial of a Creator certainly helps you live a lie.

What ever floats your boat mate. But until there is some concrete evidence, like, remains that have no navel, then I am affraid I will continue to follow the theory of evolution. I think there is just to much evidence to support this theory. But hey, that's my opinion and you can beleve what you like.

Then,
You obviously believe what you like and are not backward in stating it on OLO.
Well, you're not to bad yourself, hey!

Now, back to marriage.
I thought I was the only lucky one, well done guys, great to see so many happily married couples.

Can I ask a couple of questions, to do with marriage.

How similar are you to your partners or did you become similar over time?

You all seem very good with debates, who in your marriages changed more over time?

I am just asking because seconds ago my hubby looks over his laptop at me, stares in to my eyes and says "you may experience a slow down as I push a lot of data across the lan".

I felt an overwhelming urge to slap him and tell him to talk like a human. But he has worked overseas a lot during our 13 years of marriage.

Would I have understood this statement if he had been around more? Will we become more similar over time?

Dear Jewely,

In my marriage - I guess to be honest - it's me
who's had to change over the years more than my
husband. When we first married - he wanted to go
overseas to get work experience - I didn't want to
go - but I went. (And didn't regret it). When we came
back from overseas - we lived with his parents -
which was difficult - because his father was very
patriarchal. I learned to deal with the problems.
And the list goes on. However, I found that denying
my real feelings and fears wasn't working very well.
So, I had to speak out. We now have something more
deeper and fulfilling - but it wasn't easy, and took
some time to sort out. I think being honest is important
in any relationship. At least it helped me in mine.

cont'd

I forgot to add Jewely, my husband and I
are not similar at all. As a matter of fact
I'd say we're opposites in many respects -
but perhaps that's where the attraction lies.
He's always been a bit of a "player," and very
attractive to women - which keeps me on my toes,
so to speak.