RObert thanks I think much like that.
But am a white ribbon pledge taker.
And think it should be two colors so it represents and end to all DV.
Perplexed by the angst, not kidding, I went shopping.
On parking my car 4x4 actually, a woman held her door open.
So being a defensive driver I gave her extra room, not moving in to the space beside me.
Matronly lady she launched in to me, *do you think I was too silly to close the door*
A fair dinkum diatribe of orders and unwanted information followed.
I a bit stunned waited till she took breath and said *Mrs Bucket, I indeed had no idea about your IQ, until you showed me it is not so good, sorry for got only men must have good manners.
Done it now haven't I?

So that's where you were this afternoon, Belly - and chatting up matronly ladies to boot!

You knew it was my afternoon to host the local chapter of H.A.R.M (Harridans Anonymous (for) Remedial Megalomania - in case it slipped your mind).

We had three new ladies today, all bursting to meet you. (two of them noticed that the tap in the bathroom is STILL leaking)

Hurry home....

Sorry sorry, just trying to avoid one of the girls, she winked at me last meeting.
Fixing tap mowing lawn do you like my new Apron?

Well our words do sometimes come out wrong. Clearly mine have, there was no intention to offend, but I am also not going to cringe in a corner. Is it wrong to ask for someone to explain their motives?

Perhaps I should not have said anything. As RObert said, these sorts of threads can get into slinging matches and it is naive to think otherwise methinks.

I just don't know why you think it is okay for men to be controlling (implied by leaving them out) than for women. In my experience the most controlling people I have ever met have been men but do people thinks that is okay or 'masculine' whatever.

Also, when we witness scenes like the one you described between the husband and his wife, and make judgements, they may not be right. Nobody really knows what goes on in a relationship except the two involved.

Fact is we all have prejudices and it does not hurt to take them out once in a while, dust them off and have a good look.

Anyway I will leave it here - have fun.

Never mind, Pelican, I instinctively started a frivolous line because I know that both genders can be controlling. In any case, most relationships tend to have one member who calls most of the shots - and from my observations, it is indeed often the woman.

But I'm a graduate of the Monty Python School of Satire - I find humour has the most powerful clout when it comes to the often ridiculous antics and power plays among humans.

I mean to say. Belly is at this moment attired in Aunt Edna's vintage apron while mowing the lawn...need I say more? : )

Poirot
Yours - a much better approach than mine. I will take a leaf from your book. :)