Pelican No, do not change be your self.
But like me question your self too.
Self praise is no recommendation.
I am not doing that, but this is true, I think only two types exist givers and takers.
I am so happy to be a giver, I feel sorry for both sides in that story.
Know, in time the relationship will end, but should change not end.
I get it wrong, but never stop trying.
My work days are over not my giving.
Yesterday was my D day, had day surgery , to confirm or not cancer, came out clean,did not expect to.
But met many and spoke to them who had same fears ,some confirmed.
Just talking helped them, it always will.
And new Friends came to them and me,be true to you.

http://www.2knowmyself.com/control_freaks/Why_are_some_women_controlling_men_husbands
Just after my last post I found this link, for the first time.
I on posting threads some times put related searches in favorites then discard them.
Just about to do that and saw this, on opening it it was interesting.
First real insight in to the problem from professionals.
Acceptance more men than women are involved.
But I stand by the need to understand, one side of this issue here.
It supports my view SOME women pick weak men to dominate.
And of special interest to me, seems in peoples answers and replies to highlight Americans, maybe the world, turns to God in times of crisis.
Well at least the link is informative.

Dear Belly,

Of course some women are controlling - for a variety
of reasons. But it doesn't mean that all are. Each of us
are individuals - with our own personalities, and reasons
for what motivates us and our behaviour. That's what makes
life interesting, I guess. My mum was a controller (and how).
And even today - she knows how to manipulate me (pushes
the right buttons - mainly guilt trips). But she's my mum -
and I'm learning to ignore certain things. I hope that I
won't be like that with my children - but who knows. They say
we all end up just like our parents. She's a good person,
and I guess that I could do worse.

Well hope some one looked at the link, we see no reply.
Run our trip but in the end I think the point I set out to make was seen.
see you in the next one.