There was a research paper from Charles Stuart Uni by Santorio S (something) about Patriarchy households in Australia, and the research showed that a significant number were matriarchial domains.

Its some years ago now, but we were at a mate's place one Sunday,
about to head off to the pub, for the afternoon session. Then this
shrill voice rang out "Freddieeeeee, if you go to the pub, no
more nookies for a month!"

So we went to the pub without him.

Thats about how it works in many households.

Dear Yabby,

What an old fashioned quaint idea -
"No more nookies for a month?"

No woman I know would utter that sentence
only because she'd be punishing herself. ;-)

Dare I blame the victim!?

I reckon blokes that are under the thumb, they're there for one reason. They want to be! I've known guys who have always wanted to be there, even before they got a woman.

Sure there are some who resent it, but if they really wanted to do something about it they would. There are a few standout reasons for men wanting to be under the thumb...

a) The power of the pussy. (aka The Bermuda Traingle - think map of Tassie)
b) The replacement mother.
c) Death by a thousand cuts. ie nagging (Anything for a quiet life he says)
d) An excuse he can tell his mates rather than the truth that he finds them boring and doesn't really like pubs any more. ie He's getting old, and has lost the will to live, and wants to sit in his undies and scratch his bum and spend less on beer and have a more comfy seat.

Nagging has been shown to be extremely effective if sustained over a long period of time. The point is though, the guy under the thumb should have put his foot down years ago. In fact, probably his misses would jump his bones if he did, she's been desperately waiting for him to show some back bone for years! A new level of respect would be found, and they'd be shagging like nobody's business.

So, I unapologetically (As Always) Blame the Victim! This is all the guy's fault if he's being controlled by his spouce.

I really don't know why most marriages don't work better, after all we have 2 people both the same goal.

He, being a nice bloke is trying to please her, & she being a woman is also trying to please her. Why doesn't this work you ask? Because she has no idea of what she really wants, it changes daily, so she has no idea what would make her happy.

it's interesting..this from lexie/quote..''she'd be punishing herself. ;-)./.""

with this from pure OH*..quote..""I really don't know why most marriages don't work better,..after all we have 2 people both the same goal.""

im not sure of that
i figure..some*...might pick,,,a father
others pick a lover..others pick[well who knows]

yes ideallly..you gals sound ideal
idolistic stuff guys would could readilly agree with

these words are great
but its just a shame they arnt true[for all]

"" He,..being a nice bloke..is trying to please her,
& she being a woman '...[nice shiela]..
is also trying to please her.""

oops
just noted you slipped that in

cheeky*

""Why doesn't this work you ask?""

cause she should be all for him
except once they get a rug rat..its the golden child
that if raised right..will comfort you into the life end time

the kids are supreeme
[as they should me..every one deserves a mothers love
[in fact govt should be like a mothers love[not fathers dicipline]

but as this crop of governance[under woman]
prooves..[links]..to this pattrirachal/mindset
entering the womman-hood too..as they outman the man

""Because she..has no idea
of what she really wants""

is to be loved..[as her father loved her]
without all that messy stuff..and man thingies

"",it changes daily,"'

or has become a set routeene?

""so she has no idea..what would make her happy.""

only she can please her
just as men fix their own problems
or get girls to notice..he is a hand-yman

[why am i hearing ..the candy man can''

cause he mixes it with love
and makes..the comfort food..taste so good