Suseonline,

It is never too late for you to come to discover a reading and comprehension disability.

As a suggestion you could re-read a passage several times, orally if you like. Ask yourself questions about what you think the writer is saying and make a summary of the writer's main points. Try to focus on the writer's meaning, not some pre-formed opinions going on in your
head. Take into account the whole and not just a word or sentence you might have taken a fancy to.

What do you imagine the writer said? -Some feedback might also help you.

Unless you are stirring of course and that would be a complete waste of your time.

Good afternoon to you OJNAB...

It sounds like you and your family had an awkward relationship over the years with the aggressive nature of your Mother ? Accordingly, you have my profound sympathy. It sounds like it had a fairly devastating impact upon your entire family whenever she chose to exhibit her aggressiveness ? I'm at a complete loss as to what remedy one can adopt particularly dealing with one's mother.

Obviously to seek outside assistance, contemporaneously with her tirade, could easily exacerbate the whole thing ? And calling the coppers (for your own mother !) well, it would take some convincing that she was indeed the malefactor and should be appropriately dealt with...?

Hell, it's a tough one OJNAB ! As you've stated herein, to 'outsiders' she could present as quite charming, a typical Mum, all warm and loving, always smiling - whereas in reality she was very much a 'Jekyll & Hyde' character, whenever she was 'put out' ?

I must admit in my day we didn't receive too much training on handling 'domestics', a bit of role play was basically all ? On reflection, I'm sure police recruits these days receive much more instruction on this important crime, and it is a crime. I'm of the belief that it's just as important police receive some basic instruction on how to 'interpret' incidences of Domestic Violence. Because when you first enter premises, you soon learn things aren't always what they seem, prima facie ?

I think Domestic Violence, whether perpetrated by males or females, is a crime that's exponentially increasing with higher incidences of economic hardship, and other social pandemonium, including the over indulgence of alcohol and drugs ? Therefore it's incumbent on government to seek solutions to this growing social dilemma sooner rather than later.

Actually Phanto, I wasn't being sarcastic.
I just know that it never matters what I say on this subject, it is always wrong.
I am female after all...

Suzie, playing the victim again?

You are wrong on this topic not because of your gender, rather because you make siding with what you see as the interests of your gender a greater priority than honest engagement with the topic.

You have consistently fought over a period of years on this site against any support for males with abusive spouses. You have dismissed copious references to large amounts of research which demonstrates very thoroughly that initiation of DV is not significantly gendered issue and you appear to have done so not on the basis of honest engagement with facts, rather based on your own beliefs about your gender and a liberal helping of confirmation bias.

Try engaging honestly, if you really think DV is highly gendered (across the board, not just in specific areas) then point to some material that seeks to determine if thats the case and deals with the types of issues already addressed in this thread. If there is a better alternative to CTS type studies tell us about it and why it gives a more accurate picture of what DV is occuring (rather than what marxist feminists would like us to believe is occuring).

Clearly point to the reasons for your beliefs on this topic and be prepared to defend them on their merits.

Engage as an intelligent adult rather than sniping at those dealing with real issues and you might come a lot closer to being right.

R0bert

Hot of the presses..well Youtube,
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-KgBVedec_0
I'm not a fan of meta analysis of this type because every society is different, even within the Anglosphere and all of the studies included in his figures cover Aboriginal and minority groups who, we know suffer vastly different levels of interpersonal violence to the mainstream, bu then again there's only one set of scientific data available, feminists don't have their own sets of statistics...do they?.
Nevertheless this is an important video,Stefan Molyneux and his research assistant have a earned their good reputation by dispensing accurate information.
On thing I'd also like to point out is that I've been a lifetime fan of what's become known as "True Crime" journalism and I've noticed that it's one of the spaces in popular culture where Feminism and Political Correctness have never applied.
There's no escaping the fact that violent women are as or even more sadistic, manipulative and predatory than men and that's the issue here, True Crime mostly only deals with the tiny minority of violent people in society whereas Feminism takes the actions of that tiny number of violent men and accuses all men of harbouring those tendencies, as if under the skin of every man lurks a wife beater and rapist of women.

Wonder if this can break the ton?