The most important thing I have learned through out this ordeal is that THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS JUSTICE.

At least not as dispensed by mankind.

My son's accuser has asked him to 'just let it go'. She is sorry for what she did - or at least sorry it didn't get her what she wanted - and "wants to be a family again".

My son has forgiven her, 'forgiven' defined as not harboring anger or desire for vengeance. None of us will go along with the pretense it never happened. My son still registers as a sex offender, and will the rest of his life. He's not allowed to 'let it go', and she doesn't feel sorry enough about it to go to court and make it right.

She was involved in a horrific car accident, and has had time to reflect on what she did, I imagine. Whether we foolish beings are capable of decerning truth, or justice, right or wrong doesn't matter. There is definately a higher force that can, and does.

Like the biblical Joseph, my son has become a better person for this adversity - adversity is a profound teacher. It is a unending source of pain for me to have watched what he was forced to endure, but he has become a far more wonderful, better person because of it.

This is why, Maxx, I beg of you - don't let go of God's hand in this.

onlyone, i really dont know how you could possibly endure what happened to your family and to your son in particular, i really dont know how your son has "forgiven" the liar that ruined his life, you mentioned few words that almost killed me "Let It Go" someone has tried to make the woman involved in my case "after having seen evidence that it wasnt rape" to rethink and make it right by telling the truth, even her own daughter asked her to do that. She is unrepented, she wants to absolutely see me and above all my family completely destroyed, more that already is. Someone might ask "if there's evidences that it wasnt rape, why have you been charged" my friends it's too long to explain, let me say that my barrister is 100% sure that when the time come she will be crucified and the truth will come out. By then it will be too late for me and my family. Continue

Continued... I already mentioned to you all that my wife and I have now separated, the house we worked so hard for will be sold as to help me pay for my legal costs. Both my wife and I will end up not having a place where to live, a place we can call OUR home ever again, we are too old to even consider getting a mortgage to buy each another property, and certainly I cant afford one not even if I could get a small mortgage, by the time legal cost are paid (with my own half) there's nothing much left to even pay a deposit for another house. onlyone, there's too much in my heart right now to even consider "forgiving or forgetting" there's too much going on for me to believe that someone up there and above all the horrendous things that happen in this earth is there or will be there for me anytime soon. Continues

He DOESNT exist onlyone, it's a fixture of imagination, something that once each and everyone of us pretended to be there for us so as for justice to prevail. It's never the case, too many wars, too much hate between people, too much violence and injustice, it's never ending onlyone, I need him now not in my after life, my children and grand children wil have to live their life knowing that human justice branded they father/grandfather a rapist that is not right onlyone, not now not ever, the time has come for him to prove himself to me onlyone. The time is NOW. or forever be renounced. I know you might consider this a sin, it's not onlyone, a great priest when i was very young once told me, praying is great and we must pray, but there will be times when we need to talk to god and ask questions, just like we ask our own father or mother, that's all i am doing onlyone, up to him to listen, i've done my part for 64 years, 64 long years, full of poverty, sickness, injustice, pain, humiliations, deceits, stress, and much more. I've paid my due to him 1000 times over onlyone, I say NO MORE, please forgive me onlyone, but right now this is what is on my mind. If he does exists then he has sold my soul to the devil and there is nothing for me to do but accept my destiny.

onlyone one more thing, please understand that ONLY TRUE BELIEVERS have the right to TALK to him, and I was one of them, a real true believer, someone that has dedicated his entire life in helping others, be human being or animals, always ready and willing to help in any possibly way I could, I am starting to feel deceived right now onlyone, and if he existed then I have every right to be VERY upset with him.

I guess I'm lucky, Maxx, in that I started out a non believer. My parents sent me to church as a small child. When I was 14 years old, I saw my baby brother hit and killed by a car, a woman who stopped to help began wailing about the lord giving and taking away - I declared my hatred for God right then and there, and continued it until this happened.

I tried to raise my children to be moral, but without religion involvement. I did a better job than I thought. I would spent hours cursing and heaping hatred upon my ister in law for this accusation - until he asked me not to. "It's making you ugly, Mom. If I can bear it, so can you".

He was right, of course. I was giving this evil person just what she wanted - to destroy me, my family, and suck all happiness from our lives forever.

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