cont'd ...

We can always find excuses for our own behaviour.

I asked in another thread -

"Do people who enrage us do it intentionally, or is
it a by-product of words or behaviour that they think
is perfectly appropriate?"

If it's the former, don't give them the satisfaction of
knowing they succeeded. If it's the latter - will
displaying annoyance stop the behaviour or simply let
them know they've found a soft spot?

How we react will depend on our personality
traits. Some people having aggressive
personalities are more likely to engage in
aggressive behaviour regardless of whether situations
were provoking or not.

snake: << Any chance that we can get back o some sensible debate ? >>

I don't think that there was ever much hope for a sensible discussion here. Between the OP, his odious godmother and the self-appointed court jester it's gone pretty much the way you'd expect.

All credit, however, to those who aren't biting at the deliberate provocation.

I should also thank snake for his/her earlier positive remarks that I overlooked in my last post.

Note to Antisocial - that's called 'good manners'. Apparently you don't know about them. They're very useful, particularly when people who disagree about things want to find a way to discuss their differences.

Cornflower, I wouldn't waste any pity on Antiseptic.
He is more than able to stand up for himself, and he enjoys doing so.

There is no us and them conspiracy at work on this forum.

There will always be at least one person on any forum or in any conversation who is more controversial and 'out there' than all the others.

On this forum it is almost always Antiseptic- and he thrives on it!

Foxy good stuff I have considered a thread for a while, on just what you spoke of.
My name was to be not me mate.
I had seen a person sprint to get across a pedestrian crossing car keys in hand being quite rude to drivers who had waited too long.
Then push over while people tried to cross in her own car minute later.
We have no group here, but some who work hard to put themselves in the too hard basket then complain because they have done just that.
Love anti every things insults about unions, full of lack of understanding and knowledge ,evidence too, but it is a personal mud ball thrown rather like stamping feet or holding his breath.

Haaaaaaa.

Hear the crowd yell Haaaaaaa

'clearly but it is my fault not theirs I fail to ignore them.'

And Belly gets the prize!

pontificator,

'I distrusts the words and focus on the motive, the real topic. '

See, that right there is exactly what I do. But when I 'luxuriate' in the 'flaws and foibles', you say that's bad manners, or not sticking to the topic. Where really, it's just that you feel you're allowed to luxuriate, but when the topic is you it's suddenly offensive.

CJ,

'manners'? From an anthropologist that's really funny.

Anyway, I've said many times that pontificators style and prose is deliberately patronising, opaque, convoluted, and offensive to me. My style is offensive to him. He refuses to accommodate my needs as I refuse to accommodate his. Manners is the effort to accommodate another's needs.