i would like to hear from anyone with experience or knowlege of how to deal with a situation my sister is in, she has an avo out on an ex partner, but he still manages to turn up at her house damaging property and threatning her,he harasses her with phone calls at her work place, emails her, chases her in her car, of course he's always gone by the time the police arrive, and because his drivers licence dosent have a current adress, they cant find him, its horrendous the things he has gotten away with, and the cost financially and mentaly has been huge for my sister, even with security cameras recently installed at her home and him on tape it still dosent seem to make a difference, he just laughs and says he can do what ever he likes, and it seems he can, i would really apreciate any ideas anyone may have that might help.

Pray about him and ask God to bring his behaviour under control.
If youre not into it... then go find a pastor who is. Assembly of God is good because they move in the Gifts of The Holy Spirit.
Ive been a born again christian 26years and I always take any trouble to God and Jesus the Saviour.
Ive had God move back neighbours along just because I asked.

Gibo,

I have never heard so much rubbish in my life. By your way of thinking there should be no wars, no violence and no crime. This is the real world Gibo. Perhaps you need to move to Sydney's Western Suburbs and live in a street full of thugs like I used too. Gibo, I go to an Assembly of God church too but that doesn't mean I don't have any problems with other trouble makers. I had to move because of the vile scum that moved into my street. God is not some sort of Santa Claus who caters for every desire of the Hyper-Faith Brigade that many Pentecostal seem to be a part of.
As far as praying for your bad neighbours to move; they were probably praying as well that God would move them away from you.
Have a look at what trouble makers did to Jesus and his disciples.
I have had to take AVO's against neighbours. In my case it worked.

Lilya,

I'm trying to think of a good response. Emails are tracable if he is doing them from home or work. I knew a girl who once lived alone that was getting harrassing phone calls. She had a male person make the greeting on her answering machine. I don't know if it worked though.

i don't think avos do anything for safety. in fact i believe they can exacerbate the situation as they can be seen as a challenge to be overcome (this is a very important point). it's best to simply charge them each time there is an actual incident rather than wave an AVO like a red flag in their face.

i'm no expert but this is what i would do...let them come, but play it cool and maintain your distance. be ready to call the police if they do anything damaging/vandalising. if you have someone nearby it can help to go to them. let them shout and rant and vent, then they may eventually cool down. let them call you at work...and so what? they may eventually tire of it and at least they are mere words. phone calls rather than calls in person would be preferable to me so they should be passively 'encouraged' if they deter physical presence. this is my take without knowing anything about the person or situation.

lilya,

Your words struck a cord in me, but you've come to the wrong place. There are womens support groups out there who deal with this all the time. They will be able to tell you what is likely to work and what won't. This is not such a place. If you are lucky, somebody who knows will post a few links to somewhere that can help.

If you are unlucky - well you've seen Gibo's response. Here the favoured occupation is pushing a political barrow. Who knows, you may even attract some idiot supporting your partner's "right" to harass you.

i agree with your coment "steel", avo's do nothing for a persons safety, thats been proven to me re my sisters situation,, and YES it was a red flag to the person doing this, but at what piont do you sit back and let someone ruin your life like that,? all my sister did was end a really BAD relationship, and when she did he said he would make her sorry for it,! so he proceded to stalk and harasse her whenever he could, she had NO choice but to try the avo because he was costing her a fortune in damage bills,,i.e, he keyed her car and 3 other cars that belonged to friends visiting, he got into the house while she was at work and smashed the kitchen up, he pulled the tap out of the front garden, and then cut down trees and plants, he let down all the tyres on her car,he took out a caveat on the house she has had for 14 years, and when that didnt bring her around to meeting up with him,(wich was what he wanted), he rang her work and told the reseptionist that if she didnt ring him he would let her dogs out,,my sister left work and went straight home, and YES he had let the dogs out,, and the tottal cost of all of this is, ,,emergency plumber,,$200.00, council fines for the dogs,$1,350,,racv, $230.00,,new pantry doors,$170.00,$450.00 for 3 mobile phones and home phone that were trashed every time she tried to ring the police, and the list goes on, so far i think the lawyers fees are about 4,000, and the fact that due to "non contributary defacto laws" he can claim on her house because he lived there for over 12 months off and on,,is an absolute crock,,,but the law is what it is, he contributed NOTHING financially, but the law says that because he was in a defacto relationship he has a claim, thats why he was able to put a caveat on the house,,