Dear Seeker,

My earlier post was written to Diploman in response to his comments.
I'm sure that Diploman understood my intended meaning.

The comments were not meant to put down any body.

As for agreeable males. Well it may surprise you to learn that I find
most men 'agreeable.'

You've obviously chosen the name "Seeker" for a reason. I wish you well in finding whatever it is that you're seeking.

Getting rid of the chip on your shoulder though, might help.

Foxy:
"With women and men moving into each other's traditional spheres,
it would seem logical that we would finally be able
to understand each other's experiences."

Trouble with this is 'spin'.
If a man spends a lot of time at work
and little time with his family
it is usually interpreted as 'neglect'.
If a woman spends a lot of time at work
and little time with her family
it is usually interpreted as 'sacrifice'.

As long as this type of negative spin on things male
and positive spin on things female prevails (and it does)
there is no chance of gender equality.

"They have set their sights
on many of the same goals as their male counterparts;
today there are, for example,
more women than men
in many university professional schools."

Glad you brought that up.
Women have been very selective in their quest for 'equality'.
While they demand equal numbers
of doctors, lawyers and managers
they happily accept men still doing
all the really dirty, hard and dangerous work in the culture.

I once did some research that showed
that in Australia
a man is 356 times more likely to die at work than a woman.
I took that to the Sex Discrimination Commission
who said it wasn't a gender issue.

"It would seem they can now understand
the magnitude of these responsibilities
the never-ending routine of care and crisis."

I prime cared for my kids for 3 1/2 years
while my wife studied at a distant university.
They were 4 and 5 at the time
and both still in cloth nappies at night.
It was the easiest, most pleasurable job I have ever had.

well said Rob

could not express that [all matters] any better, so I won't

but I wonder what age you are as it seems to me only those of 60 plus [male AND female] can actually see the wood from the trees in our present PC Swamp of Power Feminism

Dear Rob,

Thank you for all your comments.

My husband was in a similar situation to yours.

He looked after our children (a 3 year old and a 4 year old) at night, while I finished my post graduate studies.

During the day, I had a full-time job. As did my husband. We shared our responsibilities. We always have. Our parents also helped us.

All this banter about gender is interesting - but I've really had enough of it. I don't classify things according to "gender."
Neither does my husband.

Achieving gender equality requires men and women to work together in search of solutions, in ways that encourage mutual respect and trust.

I think it is important in any relationship to have a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour. It's having the capacity to forgive and forget. It's giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It's establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It's not about finding the right partner, it's being the right partner.

That's all I have to say.

Dear Divorce Doctor,

You wrote:

"...It seems to me only those over 60 plus (male AND female) can actually see the wood from the trees in our present PC Swamp of Power Feminism."

I thought that eyesight is generally thought to decline with age, along with intelligence.

But, perhaps those are flawed beliefs, like so many others...

eg

"I think it is important in any relationship to have a mutual sense of values and common objectives."

I was not going to comment but [to use the Garner expression] you got my boyish hackles going with your childish Greer reply

to use Don Watson test your posts SCREAM Death Sentence [Wealsel Words], "going forward, at the end of the day, towards closure, with a results based philosophy"

obviously Howard has ensured you will get a job once you complete your Hairy Legged Studies at any of CSA, SSAT, COAT, RICAT, CTP, CTE, OPC, OPP, LA, LS, FCA, FMS, FLC, OLSC, RDC etc etc

it is my hope that Kevin '07 will axe most of these Secret Wimmins Business Quangos, so better get in quick my friend as the Captain Smirk Super is fast becoming just an Abbott & Costello comedy

I take you ARE doing HLL studies? at ANU?