Thanks Adriana. It was such a relief to find out there are other people out there who 'hate' Nicole Kidman, have done for years, but don't understand why.

I recently mentioned this hatred to my mother in England, and she replied, writing, 'Yes, what is it with Nicole Kidman? She seems to be completly looney'. And that is it, I think. She is scary. (Renee Zwellwegger is disturbingly similar, but she is not 'Ours' so who cares?) Nicole looks like she is going to break. Someone I know said she looks like a geisha. Someone who knows her and her family says she is desperately competing for Daddy's love.

As my Mum went on to write "It has just occurred to me that she may indeed be losing her mind, in which case it is really sad, and I hope she gets some help'

And when she wrote that I knew where my irrational hatred sprang from ( Can't speak for anyone else's). But I agree with whoever wrote in this forum, that when we react like this, it is to something in ourselves we fear.

In my case, all I know is I too was a competitive female in a female family, who adored my Daddy, and I went onto to be a big success in the world, admired and feted by many....and then I broke, and spent 5 years in and out of psych hospitals.

But, take heart, Nicole - if you are lucky enough to break, you just might find your soul. And then everyone really will love you.

I am going to instantly lose all credibility on this board by stating right out that I am a Nicole Kidman fan and that I also don't even live in Australia but only even read about this piece through my yahoo nicole kidman news alert. now that no one cares what i have to say, i'll get on. my main peeve with nicole-haters is that they don't even know nicole...it's not nicole who nominates herself for australian of the year or casts herself as the face of chanel no. 5 or signs the 20 million dollar paycheck. she doesn't send in stories and pictures to tabloids. the closest you can get to knowing her is seeing her on a talkshow where she is probably having a panic attack. but then i remembered that i don't know her either. if i may paraphrase... I love Nicole Kidman. It started a very long time ago and I love how much I now love her because so many people seem to hate her and I just don’t get it. it seems to nicole-haters that everyone loves her and it seems to nicole-lovers that everyone hates her and i guess that's just because we are all pessimists. it is a fine line between love and hate and by feeling either we are recognizing her celebrity. something about her has turned her into more than just an actress- and whether you not you find her talented is beside the point- and it's something that none of us seem able to explain except that it has worked up some kind of emotion in it. but you know what? that's what makes legends.

From Adrianna's original comment: "Why can I not jump on board the global admiration bandwagon and learn to love that giggle, the demure baby doe eyes and the millions of dollars she gives to charity (oh sorry - I made that bit up). Miaow!"

There is an obligation of the Blessed to help those not so lucky.

Dolly Parton runs a foundation which provides schoolbooks for every poor child in Tennessee, Lady Diana Spencer knew that just by turning up somewhere, a benefit would flow, so, where is the Kidman Home for Battered Women? This is why we resent her, we know she has more cash than Croesus, enough to do a Good Work. Even Mel Gibson flung some cash at NIDA. and with regard to a previous poster worrying about Nic's sanity - her dad is a psychiatrist so she will get help without queueing at public hospital.

To anyone who is about to say "well, you're all just jealous because you don't know her.."...

How about this for a thought. There are many fine Australian actors that get great roles in TV and film, but don't carry on half as much as "our nic" - when was the last time you saw Anthony LaPaglia complaining to Who Weekly about "his latest heartbreak", or some other rubbish?? The same goes for Rachel Griffiths, Geoffrey Rush, Russell Crow (if you ignore the bad poetry and that woeful "band" of his), Naomi Watts, Toni Collette, Cate Blanchett (ok, she is getting dangerously close to tabloid saturation), Rachel Blake - to name but a few.

And yes, it is "our nic"'s fault that she's the face of some overpriced perfume. She's clearly never heard of integrity, or saying no. She doesn't have to give some tedious story to the tabloids. How about laying low for about, oh, I don't know - 5 years.. Then again, given that's she's barely scraping by, she probably has to say yes to every opportunity that comes her way.

I have worked with Nicole Kidman. She is a total fake. It is a shock to see her for real as she is so painfully thin and unnaturally white skinned. When the cameras are on her she is transformed into a giggling, smiling, happy even over-the-top friendly person. Once the cameras are off she reverts to a scowling, insecure and angry person. I once observed a publicist on her knees talking to a scowling seated Nicole - when Nicole changed her gaze to the opposite side of the chair, this woman crawled over (on her knees) to the other side of the chair to continue the conversation. We wouldn't want poor Nicole to have to adjust her head now would we?

These are not the actions of a charming role model that we should admire.

Oh Corianda please tell me did you see her eat a meal? I always wonder what really slim people do when they get HUNGRY (like I [not slim] do).

Once again I urge everybody to find that 2nd movie of Nic's THE BIT PART.

Why does she keep signing on for films when she must have enough money to last forever? Why does she have a publicist? That full-time hairdresser guy! The thing I know I will resent her for the most is ruining my image of dear sweet witchy Samantha in Bewitched.