BUBBLE.. dear.. honey.. why are you talking about me (your husband) on line huh ? :).... no wait.. she is at work,.. you must just be another girl with a hubby like MEEEEE :)

I have this fundamental belief "things used often, should not be hidden" :) and.. "There is a place for everything"... when it gets HIDDEN in some dark remote place and I can't find it ..I get an earful of "LEARN HOW TO MOVVVEEEEE THINGS".. and "You're a hopeless finder"...and.. :) grrrrr so it goes on.

SPANKY.. have you done your reading ? :) (Nag nag)

Oh dear! I think the problem is that men do not listen!! LOL that has been my experience therefore we nag.

There's only one reason why anyone, male or female, would nag. Think about it.

Lorette

Lol, Spanky, I personally don’t know anyone who’d fit this type of nagging women.
The fact that your wife nags still doesn’t prove that women generally nag more than men do; perhaps the question should be why PEOPLE nag.
One answer could possibly be, as has been mentioned, that people nag because their concern or complaint isn’t been listened to or given attention. Perhaps good listeners have partners that don’t nag as much.

If your wife suffers badly from PMS so that it is hard to live with mood swings, she could see a GP because there is medication available, like pre-menstrual anti-depressants and mood stabilizers. I’m glad I don’t suffer from this mental torture and am always such an angel.

I like the Familial Relationship link, RObert, it’s interesting to know that the problem affecting the quality of the relationship is not how frequently or how much partners nag at each other, but how they manage and respond to the complaints.
Voila, Spanky, (*chuckles*…oops… for a not very angelic reason), perhaps the problem is not that your wife nags too much but how you deal with it.

I agree with what is said in that RAND article as well: if one partner is making a request and does not feel her/his partner pays attention, they’ll keep coming back to it until the matter is given attention. It seems very counter effective to communicate this way. I have known a couple who were married for about 40 years and they couldn’t talk to each other without criticising the other! Seems it had become a habit, it’s indeed like they have trained each other to be this way. That’s sad- what else is there to do than to care for each other’s feelings?

"if you can get along without the cooking, cleaning and sex, i urge you to live alone,"

Or you could just look out for a cleaner who wears cute, sexy
little dresses :)

Nagging has become more widespread since females were indoctrinated into thinking they are 'spiritually superior'. Even the advertising industry is getting into the act. Women I don't even know seem to think they have some god-given right to tell me what to do. Ever increasingly, women are painting themselves into a corner out of earshot. I don't have a shed but i have learnt to completely switch off while appearing conscious. The other day i went out and washed the car and when i came back in she hadn't missed a beat. Such a waste of energy.