Hi Celivia,
There is plenty of evidence, take for eg the following:
Hello my love!..my! you look ravishing today, she answers: thanks, but my butt is too big!,if you love me you would tell me my butt is too big,(yeah.. right!)
No matter how nice or complimentary we are, we get it in the neck.
If we don't compliment, we are wrong, if we do compliment, then all hell breaks loose!
It's a known fact that we as gentlemen, are stuck as far as saying anything nice to our women folk (oops.. that sounded like a hillbillie)
We come home from work, do our duty of pecking the wife on the cheek and fall flat on our faces by daring to ask "how was your day"
If we do not ask how their day went, we end up in the dog box again!
We guys are not so stupid, we actually know when to pay a compliment, it's the damn timing issue! I mean...I know one guy who arrived home one day, gave the ritual peck on the cheek, asked how her day went and suddenly realised oh-oh,"the strawberry milk man had arrived" my oh my, hell hath just taken over his house".. How the heck are we supposed to know? I told him to just arrive home with a bunch of flowers every single day of his life and chuck-in a box of chocolates now and again, he's bound to hit the right buttons somewhere down the line!

Some links

http://family.jrank.org/pages/1194/Nagging-Complaining-Effects-Complaining-on-Familial-Relationships.html

http://www.physorg.com/news90605193.html

From http://www.rand.org/pubs/monographs/2007/RAND_MG599.pdf "For example, coercion theory (Patterson and Hops, 1972) suggests that when one partner must nag and whine before the other partner agrees to a desired change in the relationship, that partner is reinforced for nagging and whining, and thus behaviors that neither partner likes or desires are likely to recur. "

http://www.enotalone.com/article/4885.html

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/msid-1212503,prtpage-1.cms

I didn't notice anything which asked the question "Nagging, do women nag more often than men?". I was struck by the similarity to studies on DV, most of the researchers seemed to start with the assumption that one gender does most of it and what the other does is hardly worth bothering with. I saw article after article that appeared to start with the premise that nagging is a womens thing but could not find any that checked that underlying assumption. Some appeared to see this form of relationship violence as justifiable - "he asked for it by not doing what I wanted when I wanted".

A regular theme seems to be that it is often counter productive but addictive.

R0bert

interesting_when a woman suggest's helpfully to a man it's nagging,
and yet the vice versa is considered to be 'in my best interest.
What's more NO further discussion regarding this 'advice' is to be entered into_supposedly it is, was, or HAS to be taken up (the advice) without any thoughts or feedback?

When somebody can explain why is it that when a man is looking for something, whether in the fridge or cupboard he cannot move objects out of the way to find this particular item, he has to call his partner who will find it immediately, just by moving a few things, then I can give reasons as to why woman seem to, what a man will call 'nag', so much.
Spanky, you have started a touchy, but interesting thread!

Go Girl Power!

Bubble

Ok, this is getting scary!
When women start to agree, there is something amiss,
When we get a compliment, there's danger lurking ahead!
Us guys have to go through life dodging bullets and sometimes lie a little, to move out of a corner we just painted accidently painted ourselves into.

well if you started painting where we suggested, you wouldn't be in a corner. :)