Hi Toni,

Perhaps you're right: 23% vs. 77 %, there's not that much difference.

Tell you what, for the next few days, ask you partner to divide up the amount of meals, amount of sleep and/or child care, use of the TV remote and family car and bathroom time, 23% in your favour and 77% in his/hers. And vice versa for weekends with the in-laws.

Let us know if you change your mind :)

Joe

Or to make it a little more like the situation being discussed we might assume that Toni is bigger than his partner and all so an endurance athlete. His energy needs (based on a particular set of criteria) are estimated to be about 3 times that of his partner.

However using the approach used in discussions of DV it's decided that Toni should have all of the energy. That his needs are to important to spend any of the families budget addressing his partners energy needs.

25% is too small a number to number to bother with after all.

The focus on the body count also ignores the reality that most of public DV discussions by authorities are not about homicides, we have laws that cover that already.

For the DV that is not sexual assault or homicide (most DV physical and otherwise) the 75/25% are not relevant, the numbers tip slightly in the other direction.

R0bert

Annastacia Palaszczuk talked about domestic violence against men as being an issue, which of course it is. However, I doubt she meant that most of the violence perpetrated against these male victims were actually caused by women, but rather by male partners or other male relatives, as I have stated above.

I do know that there is considerable research being done at present into elder abuse, of which I imagine might be perpetrated against both elderly men and women by both male and female younger relatives, because I have heard so many witness accounts of these problems.

At the end of the day, any form of domestic violence is awful and should be brought well out into the light of day, and dealt with. So far, all forms of domestic violence have been left alone somewhat, with mostly the most violent, fatal and obvious violence such the intimate partner violence, being in the spotlight.

So while I'm the first to acknowledge that more men are guilty of physical abuse than women, I would also suggest more women are guilty of mental abuse than men, esspecially against x partners.

I don't refer to many people as evil bitches, but this is one such case and if not for the support we have provided for this man, I would suggest we may well be talking of him in the past tense, especially given his father took his own life.

As for domestic violence, I would be willing to go out on a limb and say that if you took out the likes of provoking partners (mainly x), drugs, alcohol, along with religion/faith (those who naturally disrespect women) then there wouldn't be too many cases left.

So this brings me to suggest we are wasting enough on this preventable problem and need to focus more on the perpetrators and put a rocket up our limp wristed judicial system that allows criminals to get away with blue murder, yet punishes people for the likes of catching one too many fish. Just look at that grub on the SS coast lately, where the judge decided not to look at the incriminating CCT footage.

The system us a complete joke, it's a lottery and we might as well just spin the chocolate wheel, same unreliable result, billions saved.

Why keep throwing billions at a broken system. Why not fix the system then put the money to more effective use. We might even save a few bucks.

Sorry I didn't bite Poirot/Suze.

I say this because we are simply running out of funding and unless we make better use of our taxes, the likes of domestic violence will be the least of our worries.

It never ceases to amaze me how the man hateing feminists are so quick to come down on men with domestic violece, yet, they so often choose to ignore one of the primary ignition sources for DV, that being mental trauma inflicted on men by women.

How very convenient.

As I say, to address any problem, you must first identify the cause, and mental trauma is one such cause that many choose to ignore.

So look at the big picture ladies before you go pointing the finger at me.

I'm simply a hard working tax payer who has had a gut full of my taxes being pissed away on avoidable issues such as this.

Hi Butch,

So are you suggesting that men don't have ways of mentally harassing women in abusive relationships ? That women have, somehow, more power and opportunity and inclination to walk away from abusive relationships than men ?

After all, women are more likely to:

* feel obliged to stay with the kids in a home environment that they hope will become more stable,

* perhaps less likely to be financially able to walk away, i.e. less able to quickly find work, especially if they have had to stay home looking after young children for many years,

* are more pressured by parents and in-laws to stay in an abusive relationship and 'give it one more try'.

Etc, etc.

Isn't that so ?

Joe