I've had feedback from GrahamY and he is happy for me to try a thread where personal discussions can be taken to for those of us who don't want to clutter up general forums.

I've called it the carpark to match with my earlier reference to taking it outside. Normal forum rules regarding flaming still apply but if two posters feel they need to communicate off topic then here is a place to do it.

To get the ball rolling.

OZGIRL,
If I've misunderstood where you were coming from or misrepresented you it was unintentional and I apologise.

I'll agree that Scouts comment was out of line. Scout and I have been through enough and I've valued her inputs enough over a long time that I choose not to let those incidents be a trigger for me to respond hashly. If you don't like the fact that I stick by established friends through the rough times as well as the good then thats life.

I'm also getting very tired of the amount of plain nastieness on the site, much of it seems to be more about a personal preference than a necessary or healthy part of debate. Sometimes it's very school yard like.

Scout is one of a small number of posters on this site who have earned my respect over a substantial period of time. There are others with very different posting styles and beliefs, Col, Kalweb, Fellow Human and at times BOAZ_David (even though I disagree with him on most subjects) and others who post less often. I don't always agree with them but thats not what it's about. There are other more recent posters who I am coming to respect, Celiva, TurnRightThenLeft, Snout and some who's names elude me at the moment.

Anyway, over to you to make up your mind if you are willing to accept that I see some things differently to you or if you would prefer to continue being upset with me.

R0bert

Robert..
I have been suspended for the last week and so not able to reply to

you..No thats cool Robert I do understand how you feel

and its forgotten..Seems the forum regulars have kind of taken leave

at present...

Where is everyone?

Hi RObert, sounds like a good idea how do we get it started?

OZGIRL, welcome back.

Deborah it's started. I'm not sure wether we should use a seperate thread for individual discussions or just have them on this one. I'm inclined to use the one thread and see how it goes.

The main idea is that if a conversation is mostly between 2 (or more) people this provides a place to have it without being off topic on the originating thread.

Options would be
- If a discuusion on a thread is off topic then you can ask the participants to take it out to the carpark (and maybe include a link to a message here in your post)
- If you want to say something to someone else on a thread which is off topic say it here and stick a short post in the thread with a link to the post here

Links can be found be doing a search on the posters history. The little human figure below each post brings up a list of recent posts.

No privacy to those discussions and normal rules about flaming etc apply so the main purpose to give an alternative to bogging down real threads with off topic personal discusions.

R0bert

ok thanks RObert will keep that in mind.

Robert hi...

I shall be leaving OLO after this post...thats a shame because I did enjoy your company and level headed commonsense posts however there is a level of bias toward certain posters(myself included) that make it very unpalaetable for me to stay...

I strongly believe in freedom of speech and that is not happening on this forum...reminds me of the dark ages.

You are a sweet and lovely guy Robert and I think you would be a fantastic dad..as a single parent myself..I completely empathise...

May the force be with you....and take care of yourself...

I dont think I fully appreciated the very nice guy you are...