@Lexi

Your theory is violence breeds violence?
HHH

They all do not have an issue with disciplining their children.
All definitely spank.

The eldest said she will resort to caning if the child remains recalcitrant after heavy spanking....here we go again...reasoning (like you)...hard spanking...light caning..

In case you think we having regular caning exercises.... NO
The small little canes are hung on the wall.
Sign of authority and law (much like a country's law).
Seldom used...but will be used if need be.

There is a story of a young man in jail.
He was brought up all spoilt as he was the only son.
His mother 'reasoned' with him but he always got his ways
One day when the doting mother visited him, he asked her to lean forward to the metal bars of the door, saying he got something to tell her.
When she did, he bit off her ears!
"you wicked son" she shouted.
"no...i am not wicked, that is for not disciplining when i was too young to understand. Now i have to be disciplined by the State"

btw, you have not said if you will leave me alone?

have a blessed Lord's day

Here we go again, is right.....

"The eldest said she will resort to caning if the child remains recalcitrant after heavy spanking...."

She's obviously inherited your disciplinary deficiencies.

(Is she allowed to whop a kid with a cane these days?)

Is there such a thing as a "Blessed caning"?

Dear Individual,

A placid baby, if systematically ill-treated can
become a psychologically disturbed adult. A person
born with a capacity for high intelligence, if
raised in a stultifying environment can grow up
to be a dullard. People learn to develop and satisfy
their potentials in a social setting, and it is
primarily their social experience that will determine
whether or not they realise or fall short of their
potentials. The key to understanding the inter-action
of "nature" and "nurture" is the process of socialisation
where biology and culture meet and blend.

As for your telling me to "get a life?"
Think before you post. No one likes or supports
an abusive, illogical or weak debater. Argue to win.

@poirot

ah...i thot Lexi will come back with that inherited line
didnt know you jumped in first

with your line of argument, i cant win
if one of my child will not cane...you will say.."see..this child suffered from emotional scars and will not do what you did"

'whop'?
colorful word again

i can see you are one who will do the reporting?

did you never spank your own kids?
as in NEVER?

Dear Platypus,

Now I've got two stories for you...

How the blind belief in punishment is passed from
generation to generation is dramatically
illustrated in Willard Motley's book, "Knock on
Any Door." Upon hearing that his son Nick was
sentenced to death for murder, his father said,
"I can't understand it ... I always whipped him
when he did wrong." Nick himself, in his death
cell, has no better advice for the upbringing
of his newborn nephew than, "Don't let what
happened to me happen to him. Beat the hell out
of him. See that he does right."

I remember at high school one teacher who gave
us a long sermon on integrity. We listened and
laughed inside. She was teaching dishonesty
and didn't know it. I was late for school once
because I overslept. She said, "That's not a good
excuse." And she punished me. I got the message.
The next time I was late, I made up a convincing
story.

Punishment is pointless. It fails to achieve its
goal. No child says to themselves, while being
punished, "I'm going to improve.
I'm going to be a better person - more responsible,
generous, and loving." Children know that
punishment is rarely administered for their benefit,
that it serves the needs of the punishing adult.
The fact is, those who rely on retribution invite
revenge. He who resorts to verbal vilification
and physical force teaches violence. He engenders hate
and becomes a partner in violence and an accessory to
future crime.

Unlike ships, human relations founder on pebbles, not
reefs. A parent can be most destructive or most
instructive in dealing with everyday disciplinary
problems. Their instant response makes the difference
between condemnation and consolation, rage and peace.
Good discipline is a series of little victories in
which a parent, through small decencies, reaches a
child's heart.