http://www.stuff.co.nz/nelson-mail/news/7903081/Loving-dads-year-of-torment

A year to have a case dismissed and in the meantime banned from going near your home and having supervised visits with your children.

The children involved are pre-teen, was there a reason they were upset by what was going on?

Are parents forgetting how useful a good lie is?

TPP thanks.
I see it as standard issue old maids, some of them men who can not mind their own business and police who are afraid to make mistakes.
Fat too many Cops just can not trust any one.
Schools see male teachers leave.
Men forced in public not to show love to Daughters, some times sons.
Not take photos.
Lets lock the true offenders up forever.
Family should be free to love one another this simple way.

Yeah there’s lots of issues inside the story Belly, I think a lot to do with minimising harm by more timely court proceedings etc. But the one that I thought about most was the upset to the children over the length of time it all took.

I would have lied to the kids.

You remember that movie “Life is Beautiful”? Dude and kid in Nazi camp but the father had the child believing he was in a competition and the grand prize was a tank. Cool little movie, not so sure about believable in those circumstances but certainly parents can pull it off when bad stuff happens.

Don’t we do it all the time: “Oh the tooth fairy was having a night off” ...Not... “shite I totally forgot”.

the same fools who made the fuss about this seemingly loving father would demand rights for step dads and defactos to feed on porn legally. It is a very sick world.

TPP,
I have no idea what the mother would tell the kids why daddy is not living with them.

My concern is for the father, not only has he been unfairly treated but seperated from his family, has to find and pay for accomdation and all the legal costs. That is a pretty rotten deal.

I recall cases where a vexacous wife has made up allegations of impropriety against the husband, relating to the kids. How does one defend that?

What about a situation where a small boy requires help with his clothing in order to say urinate. How old is a boy when a mother sends him on his own to the 'Mens'? Would I endeavour to assist or walk away. If there was no one else there, it would be safer for me to walk away and ignore his prediciment. Sad world we live in.

Parents not allowed to take photos of their kids at a swimming pool and so on. Saw a news article the other day where a girl was suspended from school for hugging another girl.

The world has gone mad!

Yep you’re safer to walk away and not help kids Banjo, the world has gone mad but it is a response to the numbers of children that bad things have happened to.

A bit like putting in ugly pool fences everywhere instead of trusting adults… because I think the stats showed a minority of adults weren’t to be trusted but the price being a minority of children wasn’t to be tolerated.

So for the greater good these rubbish cases will happen with sloppy police work and crap witnesses. Speeding up the process would go a long way towards helping people move on.

A lie, umm… dad has to move closer to his office because he has a lot of work to do? Give me time I could think up a whopper. Would I involve a child to the extent that they afterwards talk to the press, nope I’m not sure what that’s about.

Suspended for hugging another girl? Gosh girls always hug while young guys do the – well not sure what they do here - handshake half-hug manly pat on the back type thing? But in an equal world sexually if schools say girls and boys can’t hug then maybe you have to go for an all-out no physical contact rule. I dunno, never heard about the hugging thing. That might be a whole other thread now you got me thinking Banjo.

Runner you are saying the same random stuff as a year ago and I was worried about you back then.