Houlle “Col has few supporters and many many detractors.”

I have never worried about swimming against the current…

and have actively resisted being herded, in the fashion of the socialist sheep

I do welcome the company of “like minds” , I am married to one –

Whereas leftards find me objectionable and prefer the company of absent minds

These days I post on the UK Daily Telegraph, it has several things to commend it

1 the moderators are very liberal minded
2 the DT has a “recommend” option and my recommend rate is very strong… suggesting
3 I have found a school of like minds to swim with and who do appreciate those of my qualities which the leftards find intolerable

One problem, with more agreement, the UKDT lacks opportunity for “banter”

And ultimately…I post to amuse myself.

Any comfort or inspiration I give others is something I seek no credit for but which I am happy to freely distribute

and for those who find discomfort in what I may post-

See Rhett Butler’s final line to Scarlett in "Gone with the Wind"

Lexi “There's some marvellous putdowns available on the web.
A putdown for every occasion - not all of them are acknowledged,”

I did not know there were “marvelous putdowns” on the net

I have never needed to refer to them.

And I am surprised you needed to refer to them,

I am sure you must have listened to some excellent putdowns, said to your face.

However, I can think of no greater self-putdown

than admitting to awareness of “marvelous putdowns” on the net

“playful banter” – it seems you appreciate “playful banter” only when you are the “player” and not the playee….

Lexi and Ammonite, checkout narcissism –

http://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/malignant-self-love/narcissistic-personality-disorder-npd-definition/menu-id-1469/
“Feels entitled. Expects unreasonable or special and favorable priority treatment. Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her expectations”

The source of your irritation and the motive for this thread is

Col Rouge simply refuses to exhibit “automatic and full compliance with your expectations”

As Lexi said, “conceited people have difficulty with that”

Col R., has just confirmed things for us.
He's convinced that this thread is about him.

As a friend of mine stated
"the man seems to think that terms like "show pony"
or "trophy bride" are compliments and he compounds his
ignorance by confusing total household IQ with his
wife's. And the mental image
of him as Ken to his trophy bride as Barbie..."

Quite funny really.

It is interesting to compare some of the small differences in cultures - Australians by nature tend to avoid bragging, maybe something to do with our egalitarian, fight for the underdog tendencies. The British are similar, Americans are more likely to brag but usually it is in the sense of accomplishment rather than tickets on themselves. Real braggers are usually insecure as Poirot describes,no matter their cultural background.

One thing I have noticed over time is the tendency for sporting heroes to stretch out an arm or jump with joy when winning a swimming race or a match. In the olden days (:D) winning was done usually with more humility and less pomp and ceremony. Is this a bad thing? It probably doesn't really matter, the world has not fallen in as a result. Maybe it is part of the demise of manners in modern society. What do others think? Or am I just being an old prude?

I disagree with Houlley. Col does not have many detractors only people with whom he disagrees, that is not the same thing. There are just as many anti-Righties as anti-Lefties on OLO so it all balances out in the end.

Dear Pelly,

Well said.

I personally don't mind people bragging all that much, so long as it's true. If they are proud of something, I don't mind doing the service of listening and showing I'm impressed if I honestly am. But I have learnt from experience that people really don't care all that much what you've done.

"Is there any situation when it is appropriate to imply that one is superior to others? Is this reasonable on a public forum?"

It's reasonable in a job interview, and in putting forward any proposal that depends on the listener knowing about your merits, including against rivals in love, or in pitching for business where you are genuinely better than your competition.

But mostly people don't brag all that much, do they? I mean, my own fantasticity is obviously wonderful as I keep shouting from the housetops, but what bragging is there in OLO?

Peter Hume,

"...but what bragging is there on OLO"

You may have missed the drama, but Col came back to OLOville and caused a bit of a stir with his braggadocio.

I've come to the conclusion, however, that he has merely perfected his craft, and it''s all rather stage managed and purposeful - and conducted mainly for his own pleasure.

I've decided to sit back an enjoy it - after all, who am I to knock back free entertainment.