Thanks for the update CJ. Glad to hear the Foxy one is well. :)

Yes me too CJM you are missed but one day I hope to see you and foxy here or another place

In my opinion:

Poirot: thank u for ur input. I am not disrespecting, I am merely stating the obvious. And questioning actions.

I joined this forum to get input, not to have some users judge me. Is that wrong of me? If it is, then I should leave. Correct? It is my choice, to state what I want to state, it is your choice to believe what u want to believe.

It is not your right, to judge me for this, and I am a highly sensitive and emotional being. I do not appreciate getting condemned by others who do NOT know me.

Is this place not to express ourselves? I learned a lot from this forum, now I understand why when I lived in tweed(the capital of retirement here) I see old ppl alone having to struggle with their daily lives. Not all, but enough. I learned why it is how it is here from your opinions, and I thank you for that.

I only get defensive when there are unjustly attacks, on others, on me.. Then I change into defense mode, it is a normal human behavior. If I am not contributing to society, I should not be posting here any longer.

Jinny,

We appear to be thread jumping here, however, I'll reply to your last post.

In partially unloading your circumstances on the forum you have invited those of us who were interested to state our views. For the most part, posters have been reasonably circumspect in their responses.

For you to flame up indignantly every now and then crying "you don't know me" is to mock the spirit of the exercise - and one which you yourself initiated.

Those of us who condemned your actions do not wish you ill - we only sought to express our opinion.

Hey Jinny – I’m not sure where contributing to society and posting on OLO kinda hook up in the great scheme of things.

Contributing here is about umm... taking the time to type out your opinion, all the more interesting if it is in opposition to someone else’s opinion. Hearing about the personal experiences of people that lead them to form their opinions really interests me.

The way I see it is that judging people is just another opinion formed often with limited knowledge depending on the person and how much they have communicated about themselves, proof is not usually there but forums often don’t allow the luxury of character references.

It is easier, or at least more pleasant, to inform people why you consider their judgment of you wrong rather than deny them the right to judge. But I don’t believe OLO makes any demands of its users to be pleasant. I’m unsure having not read terms of use.

I would be interested what you have learnt on OLO that helped in finding out why old people in Tweed struggle with their daily lives though.

I reckon defending yourself is all good, what I’ve learnt is that a moment is needed to form the right defense; offended or indignant, hurt and accusing, making a joke of it, aiming for their jugular, using their own words against them, or a denial of everything they are and all they believe in. Quite often I surprise myself and suddenly realize they had a good point and maybe I was wrong…. I hate it when that happens by the way and I think with Poirot it just happened to you.

GY has taken some action about another thread we should confine our comments to that thread GY started.
It is forum rules not to continue to talk about such action.
TPP you know life can be hard on mums,dads too for that matter, I shudder to think back on my family's crisis,you seem to know a basic.
You like foxy,find something positive to focus on no easy task.
We all of us, are hot wired to find it so very hard to say well I was wrong.
But we grow if we can master that.