We do not have to be bad when we can be good and we have nothing to lose.
I prefer friends than enemies and I feel more friendly to lonely persons as I am lonely one too! It is not good or easy to be alone I choose my children than a woman, today my son returned from overseas and took the results from his studies, ALL HIGH DISTINCIONS!
I my posts I do not debate but I try to support people, to encourage people, I try to promote the understanding and minimize the cost from our debate.
My chemistry is very diferent from yours and in my life I CRUNCH many idiots who thought they are brave and strong when in real they was cheap, scary hienas!
The chemistry and empty words do not make a man strong character, it is our moral values, our principles and our destinity who makes us stronger even from the death.
Antonios Symeonakis
Adelaide

I would like to fully endorse something that SJF said earlier:

"In the face of all the macho crap men are still drip-fed throughout their lives, it's a wonder so many manage to be decent fathers and partners at all."

Lets hear it for the all the men who don't need to find ways to win every argument, have their opinion reign supreme, admit that they too love, are sometimes confused, love their families - all this in contradiction to a culture that reveres controlling dominant men.

Cheers guys - there are more of you than the primitive 'alpha' males or irresponsible users.

And I say thank you.

Fractelle,
It was my mistake, SORRY!, I did not have the right to "touch" you but
Yabby was very hard to you"Fractelle's problem is a tiny thinggy about the size of an almond in her brain, called the amygdala" he now become a high specialist doctor check his "cliends" remotle and publish his findings!
I tried to support you with a stupid way BUT I was honest!
I hope I was not very bad to you. MY MISTAKE, SORRY!
Antonios Symeonakis
Adelaide

Antonius

Yabby doesn't know me nor is he any kind of expert in either psychology or neurology - in other words I don't take him too personally (or seriously).

As for my present position where I have focused perhaps a little too much on my ex - it is partly because I feel my experiences are relevant to the topic. There are many reasons why men father children and then find they cannot deal with the consequences - just as there is for women. The fact that my ex was pressuring me into having children when our relationship had failed is an important one. I believe I would've been a fool to succumb, not only would I have continued to be abused, but so too any children - and if he didn't abandon me when the reality of fatherhood became too much for him, I most certainly would've and believe me I would've hidden myself and my children from him. As I have even now - silent telephone number that sort of thing. He did try tracking me through my mother, but she no longer lives at the last address he knew so I have not had contact from him in a long time and want to keep it that way.

We need more Antonius' in this world and a lot less macho posers.

I would also like to point out that not all fathers evade responsibility deliberately - our culture does not help to build the skills needed for child care. As SJF alluded to; many qualities that are admired and encouraged in men are the antithesis of the values needed for raising a family.

Regards

*he now become a high specialist doctor check his "cliends" remotle and publish his findings!*

There is no need at all for me to do such a thing Antonious, for
its all been done already.

The role of the amygdala was highlighted in Daniel Goleman's
"Emotional Intelligence", which was a best seller around the world
and is well known. The work done by Joseph LeDoux was then published
in a book which he wrote himself on the topic.

Interestingly, when I explain this popular science to some people,
they are in fact thrilled, for at last they understand why their
heart beats faster when something reminds them of a past experience
or why they can't get over certain things which happened to them.

Not you, as you say, you are not here to debate. Seemingly you
know the lot.

One thing I pride myself on is to keep an open and inquisitive mind,
learning something new every single day. Its why I participate on
OLO and pay attention when posters like Pericles have something
to say.

But keep your mind closed, that's your choice and none of my concern.

Fractelle
The good thing is that I helped my children, my son is studying in Flinder University and the results from his studies for last year was exelent, all with high distinction, about me, Fractelle you are religious person Pray for me!!
Fractelle
This world is more complex and hard than I thought I can not tell you many things ONLY care your self. If you are not very old rebuild your life, rediscover the love, the world, the dream or hope, do not afraid to restart your life , try for honest person, for a person with similar ideas with you. Wipe your past and try.
Ignore me I am all empty words I have the same problem and I stack! I lost.....
SORRY MADAM, THIS CROSS IS MINE!
Antonios Symeonakis
Adelaide