Yabby

I have no problem with honesty. Although I do have a problem with "men compartmentalise, women don't" gross generalisation!

But tell me how does one answer the question "Do you think my penis is too small?"

Which is better? Honesty (my preference) or a big lie? Just as some clothes make some people look fat, some people have very small genitals and the truth is, yes there is too small. Coz if you can't feel it - doesn't matter how you use it.

;-)

LOL> Scout. You are too funny....

That is why it is imperative that people develop their imagination...

Anybody who asks if their penis is too small or they look too fat is looking for trouble.....By that stage in their life, they should know.

Off now to celebrate Australia Day with some home made meat pies and lots of sauce and visit to a festival where my 14 year old niece is playing in a band and entertaining. HOw cool.!

Scout, I agree with your comment about gross generalisations but there may be an element of truth to it.

The question "Is my penis too small?" - if I was ever silly enough to ask the question and got an answer I did not consider flattering I would probably be pleased if the person who was honest with me still liked me enough to want sex with me despite their views on the equipment front. The responsibility for asking the question lies with the person asking it and likewise how they deal with it. Placing people in positions where they are punished for telling the truth can set a pattern.

Now for some fun with the question.

Clearly not a question that should be asked after a cold swim.

A friend recently related a comment reportedly from Tom Arnold after his breakup from Rosanne Barr and her complaints about his equipment size. Something like "Even a Jumbo Jet would look small in the Grand Canyon". Sometimes these issues are a matter of perspective.

Hows your year going so far?

Cheers
R0bert

"But tell me how does one answer the question "Do you think my penis is too small?""

Lol Scout, to be honest, I think its better if you are honest, for
if you are sexually incompatible with somebody, the relationship probably has a limited future anyhow. I'd also suggest that perhaps the guy who asks you that, is not the smartest..

I once worked with a woman who kept on about black guys and their large penises and how great that was. She went on and on, so one day, with my dry sense of humour, I suggested that perhaps there was nothing that a few stitches could not fix. She never mentioned black guys again :)

To be honest Yabby, no male has ever asked me - he hasn't had to. The merest hint that I have found him less than adequate brings out a plethora of insecurity.

Which brings me to the point I was trying to make - both men and women are often insecure about themselves; performance, attractiveness and so on.

Also I neglected to say (as a person of slender proportions) that there is too big as well.....

This is all really off topic anyway and maybe a little off colour as well.

In my 20's when married, my husband came home from work and stopped, whereas I came home from work and was expected to wait on him. He did absolutely nothing in the way of domestic work. His mother was partly to blame - she did everything for him and brought him up to believe that women were doormats.

And a lot of men still behave that way.

That said, my last long term partner was wonderful - we shared everything equally. He saw housework as part of living which it is and has nothing to do with gender. However, I think he was the exception rather than the rule. Being 11 years younger than I am, he was from a more enlightened generation.

I find men my own age still in the 'me tarzan, you jane' view of the sexes - I have better things to do with my life than become an unpaid maid for someone who is old enough to take care of himself.

"He did absolutely nothing in the way of domestic work. His mother was partly to blame - she did everything for him and brought him up to believe that women were doormats."

Scout - I've seen both sides of this question and I don't think its gender specific. I think that there will just be selfish people, who try to take advantage of the good nature of their partners. Yes I know guys like you refer to, but I was also around in the late 70s, when many women stated that they did not get married to go to work after that. When hubby came home after a physically hard shift or two, he was told to make his own bl**dy* cup of tea, even if they had been sitting, chatting to their friends all morning. So I've seen people try to use people of either gender.

Today we have all sorts of cominations of partnerships, working wives, househusbands, you name it, it exists. It comes back to fairness and balance, communication and both sides trying to contribute, to make it easier for the other. No doubt there will continue to be people around, who try to use their partner.

I guess its a thing to keep in mind, which is often forgotten when the hormones rush, all reason goes out the window and we follow our feelings into a relationship. Easy to say but harder to do :)
Thats why I enjoy neuroscience, it helps explain how irrational we can be when those brain chemicals surge...