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By Caitlin Roper, published 4/6/2014The national dialogue surrounding men's violence against women shifts attention from male perpetrators and onto female victims.
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Yes there is a cycle of violence, and the less powerful are attracted to perceived strength for protection, only to become victims of it?
And one never ever gets to know the real person until they've lived with them for some time! So please, don't blame the victim, but stand up for her.
My sister was in such a abusive relationship, and I camped across the road, with my 303 loaded and ready.
And guess what? The bar steward just didn't show.
Luckily in one sense, given I was just 18 and could have paid a huge prison time price.
However, it did give my sister uninterrupted time to reflect, pack her things and simply get out of that abusive relationship.
The next time I saw said "gentleman" he was at our door, begging for a fortieth chance, but scuttled like a startled rabbit, when he saw me! I just didn't buy his hale and hearty, well met act, and he knew it?
He apparently died from a heart attack aged just forty something.
Maybe he died of fright, jumping at shadows with imagined loaded guns?
However, we ourselves don't need to continue the cycle of violence, and intelligent men are the key to ending male violence against both male and female victims.
And yes, some of it is cultural and or, imported; as seeming "normal" behavior? Or, doesn't everybody do it, therefore, so should I?
Violence just begets violence, and bullies always have all sorts of ultra-convenient, she made me do it excuses, its her fault, for unacceptable stone age behavior!
Nothing makes a male bully more uncomfortable, than another male, with implacable resolve to put a stop to unacceptable behavior!
Just the resolve and unflinching steely eye contact, Along with, don't give me any of your BS excuses, I'm just not buying, is usually enough; given real bullies are also real cowards, only brave around comparatively helpless women and children!
And guess what, birds of a feather usually flock together and or, make half baked excuses for each other!
Rhrosty.