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The male cloak of invisibility : Comments

By Caitlin Roper, published 4/6/2014

The national dialogue surrounding men's violence against women shifts attention from male perpetrators and onto female victims.

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...If you would like to know what a soft world it is in which we now live, this article represents a pinnacle of it! (No offence to the author here either), Its not a fault of hers!

...I grew up as a child in an army camp where domestic violence was controlled by military police, (That was interesting). If you want to know what domestic violence really was as a comparison to what it is today, that would be a good place to start.

...Things are quietening down darling!
Posted by diver dan, Wednesday, 4 June 2014 7:51:45 AM
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Oh dear another article short on facts, big on hysteria.
Posted by Wolly B, Wednesday, 4 June 2014 8:09:25 AM
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Interesting idea here: "We need to control people's language so we can blame male perpetrators harder."

Curious - no mention of the large number of male victims of domestic violence - men beaten or psychologically abused by female partners, no mention of male children abused by female parents or step-parents, no mention of the abusive nature of cis-sexuality over other sexualities and genders.

Why this rampant sexism?
Posted by ChrisPer, Wednesday, 4 June 2014 8:37:24 AM
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No real man, beats up on a woman!
Moreover, the second you resort to violence, you've lost the argument!
Blokes, you've just got to get smarter, and instead of no, no, no, say perhaps, let me think about it, why do you need it, can we really afford it, do you think we should take on some income protection insurance, given we/you seem to want to commit so much of it?
And so on!
Sometimes it takes more courage to walk away from a fight, than have one; and why would anyone in their right mind, drive away the most important/precious person in their life.
Take a walk, cool off, think things over, and when you're back in FULL control, just go back and give your lady a big hug, tell her you love her, that she is not only the most important person in your life, but your life.
Take her out sometimes, buy her a candle lit dinner and flowers, and never ever forget to thank her for the little thoughtful things she does, just for you.
The real secret to enduring happiness is people who just make a daily habit of small acts of kindness, for the most important people in their lives!
And if money is tight, get off the smokes and the booze fellas!
She's worth it!
In the final analysis, one still needs to make a "conscious decision", to let go and lose control!
Get a punching bag, if you need an outlet!
Punch, kick and scream at that!
Don't take frustration out on virtually helpless women and children; and if you can't stop kicking the dog, have it put down, at least that would be kinder!
I would give all I own and walk over cut glass for a truly loving partner!
I have plenty or enough of everything else, except the one thing that makes sense of and gives meaning to my life.
If you drive your lady away, with your fists fellas, you will regret it for the rest of your life!
Rhrosty.
Posted by Rhrosty, Wednesday, 4 June 2014 11:33:12 AM
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While it is clear that Caitlin as a survivor is passionate about reducing violence against women, and while everyone will agree that it is a serious issue, it would appear that she is conflating the issue into a crisis in order to draw attention to it.

Declaring violence against women as a national emergency would imply that the incidents have suddenly increased or that the number of incidents dwarfs other issues. Whilst the number of reported incidents has increased, there is no indication that the total number of incidents has increased.

Secondly, forcing the media to modify their language will increase attention for a very short while until the readers get tired of alarmist language, as they did with the regular predictions of climate change apocalypse.

Tell people how it is and tell them regularly. Appear alarmist, and you lose them forever.
Posted by Shadow Minister, Wednesday, 4 June 2014 12:06:20 PM
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Family violence is not a gendered issue, it's a family issue, men and women are equally violent in the home when judged by the same standards of behaviour.
The one in three campaign
http://www.oneinthree.com.au/
Overview of recent family violence research findings.
http://www.oneinthree.com.au/overview/
Detailed,footnoted overview of recent family violence research findings:
http://www.oneinthree.com.au/storage/pdfs/One_in_Three_Fact_Sheet_1.pdf
Misinformation and misconceptions about Family violence:
http://www.oneinthree.com.au/misinformation/
Posted by Jay Of Melbourne, Wednesday, 4 June 2014 1:27:49 PM
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