As we have seen from the replies here there is no simple answer to your question. Different things mean a variety of preferences to a wide variety of men and women. I looked up the influence that various hormones had on men and women especially testosterone and found an interesting article based on a survey with respect to just that question which might be of interest. https://www.drugs.com/news/testosterone-levels-matter-men-s-women-s-sex-lives-100963.html I feel that there is some atavistic animal development that causes many of our feelings and activities, but social consequences also influence our demands. Producing and rearing children being one of the main ones, but sex has always been recreational as well with differing strength in men and women with an equal distribution of mental connective issues as well. There is another article on line that suggests up to 70% of Australians have entered into some sort of sexual infidelity . What does that say about the subject ? https://spousespy.com.au/statistics-of-infidelity

Hi snake,

Thanks for the links.

I can't speak on behalf of other people.
Sexual infidelity is not something that I've ever
given much thought to. My husband satisfied
my sexual appetite and hopefully I do his.

But as you pointed out - we're all different.
And there's not one correct answer to the question
I originally asked. That's what makes it interesting.

Each to their own.