Dear Paul,

Having some Russian blood running through my veins -
I can proudly give credit to my killer cheek-bones,
mane of red hair, slender physique, long legs, and
tall height, to my Russian ancestry. Plus of course
my stubborn-streak, and a huge emotional appetite.
I love tenderness. But it's the rarest emotion one
encounters.

I guess people either connect or they don't.

I've been reading a few websites on this subject
and there was one that made me think that
listed some of the hurdles that should be considered
before older women choose to marry younger men.

The first was - what will people say?
If you're the type of person that's concerned
about what our society may think - the suggestion
is you'd better give it some more thought before you
proceed because no matter how modern we think we are
in this day and age - there will always be those who
won't approve. Of course if you don't give a hoot about
what others think - this won't matter to you.

The other hurdle is the maturity factor. Men tend to
mature later than women - so we're told. Again I guess
it all depends on how you feel about all this - and
also your choice in partner may well be a very mature
young man.

Then there's the compatability factor. What do you really
have in common. There's the friends factor. Will there be
friends on both sides that you will feel comfortable with?
There's the income factor. Chances are you'll already be
well established in your profession - he many not be.
You may be earning more than him. Will this be a problem.

There's also the children factor that needs to be considered.

And of course the commitment factor. Can you see this
relationship lasting for the rest of your life.

If after reviewing all these hurdles - you still want to
go ahead - go for it!

As one website stated - "Being loved so completely
by someone - your age doesn't matter on bit and in the
end that makes up for everything else.

Or does it?

"Should older women be allowed to marry younger men?"

Who's stopping them?

My grandfather was 12 years older than my grandmother, she was 18 when they married and he 30 and I personally know two couples with similar age gaps, one 15 years, he 55 she 40 and another 60 and 47.I've advised my daughters that if they want kids in their twenties to consider a man in his thirties but the same advice wouldn't apply if I had sons. There is a biological clock where women are concerned, for a host of reasons it's better for women to give birth in their late teens or early twenties and finding a man that age who is a good provider is harder than ever these days. We also have to face the fact that in 2015 men are living almost 20 years longer than their great grandfathers and their adolescence can last from around ten years old to their late twenties.

There is no shift towards young men dating older women. It is just more feminist role-reversal idealism.

There has always been the odd exception, probably fewer these days than post-WW2 when people were locked more into their small towns and local 'burbs.

Would be users? Yes, always plenty of them around and not limited by gender.

Where young men are being accused by women of 'lacking commitment' and opting out of marriage, it is ludicrous to suggest that young men would be preferring to marry middle-aged and elderly women instead.

Foxy,
Forget the older women marrying younger men
and concentrate on those older, latent pedophile
men marrying those Asian petite lookalike schoolgirls
What an affront to Aussie women.
Or is it just a way to pander to a fetish without the
prospect of prison time?