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He is devastated. He thought they were happy----ish. What happened, he never saw this coming. He wonders what he could have done better.

What he or she should have done was shoot through after a few years. We are a serial monogamous species. We are not meant to stay together for decades.

The problem is not with the instinct, it is with the socialisation, which is not in keeping with our natures

A plea to posters..maintain the rage!

...See, so much loss, so much pain, so much inexplicable stupidity; from metaphor to reality, so much desperate "failing", searching for the elusive answer to failed relationship and a love grown cold.

...A thousand reasons to go there, but a million reasons to run! The synaptic weakness between intellect and instinct, the "point" where sense and intelligence and cold hard logic surrender to stupidity and instinct. Love!

diverse dan...quote..''"the object is..to identify the mythical compass..which will offer a safe,..prosperous and long journey..to love and relationship..in a world full of dangerous reefs and much foul weather.''

tell him he's dreaming
not in this world..but more likly in the next

here we all wear a mask...have learned top pretend civilisation
dream of a soul mate...[when in reality we are so diverse..in our intrests...so as to not be compatable except in overlapping areas..like kids or shared finance common hates/loves...[in limited areas]

the next world is organised
along line of common passions
spheres of confluence..plains of common reasonings

there life goes on non stop..doing all the things we wanted to do here..but were to afraid to try to do here now..or thought we couldnt do..so settled for a more or less union with some other

…""the propensity to failure all love endures""

yep we meet and marry ..by pretending
mary another pretender..till we get sick of the pretence
[and post tense]

""that we may attest to the rareness of that gem among them all, that blooms to a fullness,..as the flower of “true” love,..(or as we may prefer, “enduring” love).""

mate i love seafood
but if i could only ever eat seafood ALL THE TIME
im sure i would soon learn to hate it

we change
things change
kids grow up...we love this now
who knows what we will love tomorrow?

…""that more may avoid the pain
of another of natures failures,..as hide she will, her truth from the masses, hoodwinked into the broad road of failure,..whose crushed hearts lay strewn amongst the wilted petals of a dead love;""

yeah a nice turn of phrase

""old dreams hidden behind the drawn curtains
of a hopelessness, gone cold in the silent fields of pain,''


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there, metamorphosing into a retributive “praying-mantis”..filled with post-relationship blues,..""

yea building castles in the clouds
as we live longer..we find many more to love

""intent on devouring the mate
once so adored and loved (sic).""

any love is only a temporary love
its a matter of loving everything all the time
[or more..not to *hate anything]

""Let none of us stray into those hot-ashes of failure;""
by allways having many potential pleasures in play

and not dwell in misery

''it is bad egsample]..for the children!]]

yea ahhhhmen