Dear Shaggy Dog,

As my father used to tell me - a kind word can mean
so much. So, Thank You and a big hug to you.

Lexi,
You said
"I've recently read a very serious
article in my local community magazine about men
and depression and I can't even begin to imagine
what it would be like not to be able to marry the
person of my choice because some law said that I
had to be pigeon-holed into somebody's idea of what
a marriage should be."

This person's depression can hardly be caused by a relationship not being registered as married. They must have a pre-existing cause of depression. Gays can live together without being registered. Not having it registered by the Government is no cause for depression. Heterosexual couples happily live together without depression in da’facto relationships. He needs to look deeper into his cause of depression.

Dear Philo,

You cannot make assumptions about other people's
lives and judge them according to your reality.
You (nor I) - in actual fact
can say with any certainty - what may or may not
cause depression in other people.
I was merely stating
that having read a general article on depression
I could not even begin to imagine - the grief
that it could cause someone - to not be allowed to marry
the person of their choice.

lexie quote.."'I could not even begin to imagine
the grief
that it could cause someone -
to not be allowed to marry
the person of their choice.""

good grief
romeo and julia ette
cant yiou recall not being allowed to buy
that blow up doll when you were 5?or that mansion when you were 15

we are so much into wanting things [on the other side of the fence
to only find in the end the gr/ass isnt as green as we thunk it to be]

heck what better words to live by
than you cant have that

or you cant do that
its the wish to have what others have
thats the root of all out angst

if only i had a million words
to explain what you got

not the 500 words
that describe what you cant get..cant have
unless you put in the commitment..will power.or study
IT TAKES..to earn the honourum

i want to be a mum
i will complain untill YOU KLET ME BIRTH MY OWN CHILD

i insist
its MY RIGHT
i WANT TO BE A MUM

NOW

bahhhh
baaaahhh
bahhhh
[the temper...tantrum mantra]

i want it NOW*
[god was wrong in making me a man]

I WANT TO BE A MUM
i WANT TO BE A WIFE

i want it
NOW!

now
now
now
i insist
its my right

Dear Johan (OUG),

Gays are not asking for any special or
preferential treatment.
Or to be treated differently than anyone else.
On the contrary -
They are asking only for the same rights
as other couples have in our society.

I'm suprised at you Johan.

Actually, it's interesting in that "marriage" is a social legitimisation of a relationship - a formalisation if you will. I think a real tragedy would be more likely if you were denied the right to be with the person you love rather than being barred from formalising the union (in a social sense).