Well said benk and Pynchme.

Fidelity, commitment and respect are all part of the marriage ideal. No marriage is perfect but if we don't at least strive for the best in marriage,where does that leave us. Do we just throw our hands in the air and say well it is normal to cheat, it happens all the time why don't we just all go out and cheat.

Dustin Hoffman once said when interviewed that he has had many opportuntities to cheat and of course there is temptation all around, but he never did for one reason only, he loved his wife and did not want to hurt her.

That is what marriage should be about - not about self but about what you can contribute to a relationship. If we all thought more about what we give rather than what we take - lose the sense of self without losing the 'self' - what a better way of honouring the commitment of marriage.

I don't mean to sound too Pollyanna, but cheating with a veritable bevy of women is probably not part of what most expect in the marriage contract.

If one spouse feels they cannot honour the contract it is probably time to leave and allow the other to form a more worthy attachment.

Any good and upright man or woman we would like to think agrees.
A wedding is a commitment forever.
I truly think that is what it should be.
However let us not kid ourselves many both sex's do not.
Can any of us, who have not lived life under a rock, say they never knew a tiger woods type, women and man?
Are we to infer tigers sin was worse than his partners?
Both sides knowingly betrayed tigers family.
It is surely a basic instinct for some to behave this way.
As it is, see the number of posts, to talk about it headlines keep coming, we are just about sick of the whole mess, but right or wrong Tiger keeps some of my respect, he came out of no place to be the worlds best.
Maybe he could not handle it, but I hope he returns to golf, he can expand his record and he should.

Hmmm, there could be some good come out of it. Maybe it could herald the start of a new tradition of giving the bride-to-be the gift of a golf club at her bridal shower. Start her with a mid-range 5 iron, perhaps? Then a game of whacking a pig-shaped pinata for luck and to remind spouses to avoid temptation.

Tiger? He will be back for the Masters because he is golf's biggest draw card.

Fun nee, well not really we would then have to give just as many men the same right to flog wayward wives.
Then maybe line up both sex's cheating partners and bash them too.
Guilt? all over the place on every side, but at some level we all, Christians and all, understand right or wrong sex is a basic instinct

Belly and others

Most of us on OLO are middle aged (me included) and have moved on from sleeping around. I find older people who aren't directly affected by promiscuity and who get all philosophical about it quite irritating. When they were being dumped because their partner didn't want to be stuck with one person, they weren't being so mature. When I was twenty, I wanted to have sex with every second woman that I saw, but I knew that they would be anything but philosophical when they found out they were just a bit of fun. Its a bit much now to say "aw it isn't so bad".