Banjo

Actually I do sometimes 'accidentally' step on toes or bump into people, I then apologise of course - while smiling. It is very satisfying, because I think sometimes the bullies know they are actually in the wrong, but if they are so arrogant as to not realise, I have the satisfaction of a little revenge.

But overall one does require a sense of humour. I do some acting when I can get it and don't mind a little impromptu performance.

One day on the train a woman who sat next to me thought she required more than just her seat and shoved me. I let out a groan and began to cry - everyone around us stared at her. I said I'd been in car accident (which is true but 15 years ago) and that I had a bad back which is also true, but not at that time. She didn't apologise, but said how was she to know I was injured? To which I replied, 'she didn't, but perhaps in future she should refrain from pushing people - 'just in case''. Everyone was giving her the 'hairy eye-ball' and I had to keep myself from laughing and, of course, when I disembarked from the train, had do so with my stiff sore back. However, there are times when I have been in a great deal of pain. Oddly I have stayed silent - its when I'm feeling healthy and strong I will take on the bullies.

Whistler
There are two issues with speaking your mind;

- that you have something intelligent or useful to say.
Sadly both those options require thought, rationality, objectivity, provable facts, to be in the mix.

- Assertions require none of the above however they prove nothing, convince no one either. In which case all that happens is you waste both opportunity and time.

Wise saying: if you have an axe to grind by a stone not a computer.

Dear Banjo,

Thank You for the lovely compliment.
You're warm-hearted and a gentleman.

I'm always delighted when people are kind
to each other - be it opening doors, or helping
someone in distress. Even smiling helps.
It's amazing the reactions you get simply by
giving someone a smile. (Especially the elderly).

Graciousness, a kind word, common courtesy,
doesn't cost anything - and the rewards
are plentiful. You make some person feel good,
and you feel good as well. I do it all the time.
It's become second nature to me. Mum often asks,
'Why are people smiling at you?'
'Cause I smile first!'