Hey if you work it out let me know, that was brilliant and my first laugh at the screen of the day.

Wonder if women have less ability to process testosterone and that’s why we gab when stressed? Or has society taught men to shoosh and give no clue. So if this hormone is in low amounts it allows vocabulary to form but if in high amounts you talk more for short periods but aren’t as good at it?

Has made me think a lot, I get kids and if of talking age they talk a lot the first couple of weeks. And obviously they are stressed and their world just changed. I always assumed it was part of a bonding thing and a need to feel comfortable with me or my family and the other children. The stress leads to talking which leads to forming a bond which reduces the stress?

I had one boy awhile ago whose favourite thing it was just to come and sit outside with me and watch the other kids play while we talked, he was 5 at the time. If I was sitting he was sitting and talking. If I went away he would play but soon as I was back he was right there beside me. I miss him, I hope he is now with someone who likes chatting.

It’s a shame DoCS never asks what sort of adult would be the best for a particular child before sending them to grow up with a family. He probably went off to deaf mutes or something.

you got the gist[despite my simple error]breast feeding would make a more talkative child[due to lower stress]

those kids that dont talk..would come from a high stress home..too much testosterone/adrenolin...i feel a talkative child hasnt been in-jured by its surroundings..[whereas a silent child clearly has had stress[one of the best things would be to get them to open up/talk]

the other thing that occured to me after posting is that even such things as the link are outlawed..because they contain an image of a child[things have gotten so convoluted parents have lost their kids for taking photo's of em in bath,or playing sports..[i must say i agree to a point,why should adults want photos of kids anyhow]

i had a friend once who wanted a kiss from my daughter for a lolly[that felt to me like training her to sell kisses for sweets..[i never saw that guy again..

it may seem overeaction but im not willing to risk her getting used to lollies for 'kisses'..then one day getting into some fools car for sweets...kids are such a touchy topic..everything we do they copy,..with kids i would rather play it safe...let kids be with kids and adults with adults

anyhow im glad you got a laugh..it was funny...i hope that some clues are contained in all of this stuff...kids talking is normal..kids not talking is a sign..

one of the best things..you can teach any kid..is to ring 000 anytime they feel in danger..the calls are automaticlly traced and recorded...learn to play the ring up..for instant help line..game..and they know where they can get help anytime...then get to the stage where they ring 000 and talk about scary things to those who can instantly help

teach them to ring 000

ring ring whos there..[say their name and tell the phone what/who hurt you]..older kids must be taught the street name game..[what street are we in now..[what is the number of the house..[whats their name game]..simple stuff each kid must know..to be safe in these times

Yes the whole wanting cuddles or kisses as a payment for something is definitely out. Hopefully not within the family home though. It is a burden being this aware (on your guard against) of danger OUG.

I had two nieces come to stay with me once, about 7 and 9 and I remember they did not get any pudding until they could tell me my phone number and how to ring for help. I had forgotten this older kid stuff as I am usually dealing with the little ones. I will remember to teach the 000 to the stage appropriate children.

I can just see one of them ringing to say Julie wouldn’t let them play outside today. [smile]

I read a long time ago that breastfeeding releases some sleep hormone into the mother and the child. You go a bit strange when you’re breastfeeding – fear of public places in case some other person’s baby cries, putting the iron in the fridge, and looking for your sunnies that you’re wearing… Really does dumb a mum up for the duration.

Kids being with kids is the best thing, everything actually becomes so much easier if you have a group of children and they teach each other so much. I haven’t actively potty trained in ages as the little ones just start copying the older ones. They learn about eating at a table from each other and how to share, also how to trick each other and some other funny stuff.

Photos, well they are attached to memories I guess, usually happy ones. I know parents just love them when they can’t be with their children all the time.

That utegate thing is on TV, I won’t pretend to understand it, it seems trivial and is annoying me when I want them talking about keeping children safe.

Dear Piper,

Well, I just snuck back into your thread -
and my goodness it's still going!
Congratulations!

You're one gutsy Lady!

You remind me of the following quote:

"Nothing in the world can take the place
of persistence.
Talent will not;
nothing is more common than
unsuccessful men/women with talent.
Genius will not;
unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.
Education will not;
the world is full of educated derelicts.
Persistence and determination
alone are omnipotent.
The slogan "Press On' has solved
and always will solve
the problems of the human race."
-Calvin Coolridge.

Onya Piper!
Big Hug -

Foxy I have done my usual and gone well off track. No additional info can be gained until something else happens. I am still trying to find out what is happening and when it will happen. DoCS are still recruiting foster parents, they have made some different three year contracts with NGO’s. This is confusing some NGO’s that were not given any room to grow or reason to recruit any new carers themselves.

The Children’s Guardian haven’t given any clue as to how the NGO’s will be monitored and if truly useless (which will equate to children in care being abused) they don’t have the means (that they have said) to take away the accreditation they gave them.

I am also trying to find out why on earth family assistance is means tested with foster children besides probably saving a lot of money. There is something not right about it but I don’t have it set in concrete quite yet as to why it is annoying me.

Persistence is all I have since the genius and talent are sadly lacking. I do wish I had your skills for finding information and I really wish I had lived here longer as I miss things or misunderstand a lot of common local knowledge.

I am lost in the sex scandal thread and feeling a little bit sorry for Anti. The thread on gender, err… well I don’t know if anyone needs fixing but optional alterations don’t bother me. Then there is a thread from Antonios where I am probably going to get shot down. So I creep back here and talk to OUG about children. I kinda assumed it was forgotten.

Thank you for popping in Foxy… if not stopped you’ll probably see me in here having a rant occasionally as the government proceeds with its slow migration of the foster children in to objects of revenue.

And I hope everything with you is well and thank you for your words they are appreciated.

copied not to distress but to inform
http://www.drshirleymoore.com/MediaHandout.pdf
its from usa our nearest and dearest allie

other news a phone for 4 yearolds
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-1195007/On-sale-soon-The-mobile-aimed-year-olds.html

fighting beurocracy
http://lewrockwell.com/buppert/buppert26.1.html