"I'm not being sarcastic - or trying to put you down in any way.
I'm sorry if what is happening to me does not suit your agenda - or understanding of how things should be. I can only tell you how it is with me. And as for my using 'emotional blackmail' as you put it - why would I? I don't know you at all and besides - I had assumed you would be supportive and understanding - as you had always been in the past." (Foxy).

'I'm sorry if what is happening to me >does not suit your agenda'<..

That IS sarcastic. I'm not blaming you, I'm just saying be honest about it.

>'...understanding of how things can be'<

Oh, I understand Foxy, and it's tumours too. I am a tumour farmer. I crop them. I have a whopper currently just above my right knee. I call him Humpty Lumpty;- he is a good lad;- because this one is benign.

>I had assumed you would be supportive and understanding-as you always had been in the past'<

You have received a lot of positive feedback, one from me. But I WILL speak as I find. And I do find that you are a little preoccupied with image, and clearly have come to expect it.

This is a forum. People hold different opinions. It is btw, an 'open' forum, viz - one need only come onto the site to read the posts. Registered members are the only ones who can log in, and their tags as a consequence show on the main forum page.

It is unfortunate that I disturbed the love-in, but I still question a fairly heartfelt goodbye that lasted all of thirteen days, with you user name repeatedly showing, when to keep you updated would have only necessitated getting here and taking a look!

I won't resile from that

Sorry Belly, our posts were too close together, so I didn't make reference to yours.

The only reference I will make is to refer you to my previous post.

When caught up in this kind of scenario it is all too easy and predictable for someone who posted what I did to sound heartless. After all I am a strongly opinionated poster aren't I?; and I have posted a negative comment about a poster that is popular and posts in a more restrained manner.

Did you really think that I DIDN'T know how I would appear?
I'm waiting for someone to accuse me of jealousy!!

I have hardly posted on OLO in a manner that seeks to mollycoddle, so I think not!

What I hope for in these days of Freedom of Speech (remember that?), is NOT to be supported-,(who has the guts nowadays to question against the tide.Do you TOO want to look like the bad guy?!),-just induce a food for thought. That's all.

And I don't regret it.

Dear Ginx,

I can see that you are upset. I can also see that nothing that I say will convince you over something that you have made your mind up about.

I am being honest. Both my husband and my son have access to the Forum
through my I.D.

It's going to take about six weeks for me to recover - I have a great deal of home help - and then in for more tests.

Anyway, I hope that you keep up your fight and I wish you well.
Don't allow negativity to take you over.

All The Best Ginx.

Ginx, you seem to think you've done something really brave and controversial by asking Foxy why her illness was so quick. I really don't think so. It was a fair question - I also thought Foxy's illness and recovery was quick, so I'm glad you asked it and she got a chance to reply. She has replied. Her explanation sounds entirely plausible to me - if I were recuperating from an illness, I'd be surfing the internet too. Her husband and son logged in. Even if Foxy logged in, what would it matter? She could conceivably be too sick to post but want to check in every now and then to distract herself.

You're free to believe or not believe her. From Foxy's tone, I get the feeling that her recent experience with something so formidable as cancer has made her even more sanguine than she usually is, and she doesn't seem too bothered whether you believe her or not.

I don't think other posters are that bothered either. I don't think it's a matter of other people not having the guts to agree with you. I think most posters are probably pretty prepared to believe Foxy, but also respect your right not to believe her. We all play our roles on these boards. For all I know, Foxy is a sixteen-year-old boy who's had nothing more serious than jock itch and you're the Queen of England. But you both ring true to me so I choose to take you both on faith.

So well done on speaking your mind, but I'm not sure this was the biggie you think it was.

Hi guys
Surely it's not about who is having the worst battle with cancer! Let's all wish those with such fearful health issues well, and move on!
Nicky.

I just want to say that I'm utterly delighted that Foxy is back with us :D

Sorry, but any other reaction is shite. No offence intended to anyone.