Cornflower

"If you might sometimes come across as patronising to women it is because by focussing on women's 'frailties'"

That it is a little unfair. My posts on OLO show a long track record of attacking patronising, over-protective attitudes towards women. I could credit women with a little more critical distance towards this advice, if I saw a lot less young women with their head in the clouds. Older people see them and think "geez they have some hard lessons to learn" but few people want to tell a few hard truths and lessen the damage.

"you are so willing to dismiss the worth, welfare and quality of life of men." I can't even comment on that because I have no idea why you might write it.

In relation to advising men, I actually believe that most men actually have the skills to sustain relationships, but many young men don't want to be too nice to their current girlfriend, because they don't want to be stuck with her. If asked, I would advise men not no sleep around, because I have seen so many men sabotage every relationship they get and every time move on, thet end up with someone who is a little less desirable.

benk, "many young men don't want to be too nice to their current girlfriend, because they don't want to be stuck with her. If asked, I would advise men not no sleep around, because I have seen so many men sabotage every relationship they get and every time move on, thet end up with someone who is a little less desirable."

Goodness, I can see why you are on a mission to protect women, those vulnerable, fragile flowers, from that other gender, who it would appear, 'are only after one thing' as the vigilant nuns used to say.

Ha Ha

men

That dressing like a suit or flirting may get attention, but not respect.
• That a man’s ‘reputation’ still matters but what male has one?.
• That men don’t need to make any effort to avoid sleazy blokes, hee hee.
• If she says “I love you” she is probably after your money.
• If she seems too good to be true, she probably is.

Some women do think that if she sleeps with a man the first night it means marriage but rarely. Often men think they have a gilfriend when she thinks "what a nerd". I used to dress really well and just got the velcro type, freaked me out.

However, the truth is that women do have more insecurity when younger but once they get older men cling like that horrid gladwrap. So men get more needy once they lose their teeth and get a tummy. Sadly this is when women have lost the loving feeling realising washing dishes, picking up socks, smelling farts and doing all the cooking is slavery, not romance.

So for some women if they only ever get used for sex can be a good thing. Better than being used for sex PLUS used as babysitting PLUS used as cleaner PLUS used for decoration.!

Blah, blah. Men should not think so highly of themselves. They are just mates. What men wear never made them good or bad. Just different levels of sheeples.

Cornflower,

Wrong again. I aren't treating women like precious little petals, I'm more brutally honest. I just get sick of being the only source of honesty. The ignorance and over-confidence that comes from being lied to leaves them unable to help themselves. Speaking of over confidence, check out TheMissus' condesending attitude towards men.

I totally agree with you there Benk. You certainly aren't treating women as fragile petals at all.
You have a rather unhealthy dislike of females which runs through almost every post you write.
Some references you make are just a little more subtle than others!

Cornflower <' If you might sometimes come across as patronising to women it is because by focussing on women's 'frailties' you are so willing to dismiss the worth, welfare and quality of life of men.'

Congrats for this statement Cornflower. It is quite possibly one of the best come-backs against some of these female-hating men that I have seen.

There are good and bad among both genders.
I have seen just as many men wearing 'provocative' clothing when they are out as women.
Those tight trousers just drive me wild.......... :)

TheMissus - Oi mate, that's pretty harsh, but an understandable counterpoint to Benk's list.

Benk you refer to, "...TheMissus' condesending attitude towards men" - don't you see that the things you're saying are condescending to women - and to men as well?

I believe that most men and women are better than the ways that you describe them. I also don't see why women should be the only ones to be held to some standard of behaviour (including limited choices and suppression of some of their vitality and initiative) while men are not - they are encouraged to express themselves and develop, warts and all forgiven, towards maturity.