Its always wrong to blame the victim....assuming there is a victim.

Those who merely claim victimhood, on the other hand, are fair game.

Victim blaming seems to include the less than empathetic Author?

I've been drunk on a number of occasions and legless on at least two. Yet still able to relate to females with respect and to the point of refusing the advances of a highly inebriated female, a beautiful blonde bombshell, I was very attracted to!

I'll never ever forget Diana and how desperately I wanted in my arms, my bed! But sober and in charge of her primary responses!

It was not to be, even though I followed where I thought she'd gone and spent three some years hoping to bump into her as I believed in all honesty, she felt as I did about her.

That said, in thirty-five years of enforced celibacy, I've had a number of propositions from ladies, drunk and sober, attractive and some with a face only a mother could love.

Through that time I had two rules that were never broken! No dalliances with married ladies, and none with inebriated ladies!

I believe it's assumed privilege and entitlement that is mostly to blame here? Along with a sprinkling of, I want I take, sociopaths, for who there are no boundaries they won't cross? And for them, it's always the victim's fault?

Time these A-holes were weeded out of our institutions, our lives, our communities and our country!
Alan B.

When a man & a woman meet there is a chemical, emotional & instinctive reaction which can not & must not be legislated against.
Anyone who is not aware of this should refrain from going out to meet people to be intimate with ! Those socially inept types who have no concept of interaction should not be allowed to mix with normal people, they should stay in their indoctrination facilities where they belong !
Leave normal people to make their mistakes & deal with them in the normal way with normal consequences !

Interesting isn't how these willing & happy participants suddenly become rape victims a couple of years, or decades later. Could it be they have become encouraged by a certain political party. There does seem to be a stream of these recently remembered "rapes" all over the world.

Also interesting that the same bumps & grinds occur in many workplaces, but don't draw the same attention from the femenised media.

Also interesting is that the bloke is wrong no matter the outcome. He is very bad if a quick bit of fun doesn't become undying love, but pilloried when it does.

Poor old Barnaby did the right thing & married the lady, & is viciously attacked for it. I wonder if he would have been less viciously attacked if he had walked away. Pity about his ex wife, as with Bob Hawks.

Sometimes the bloke is going to be blamed, no matter what he does, where the lady is free to be a lady or a tart, but will never be at fault.

Courts are never ever about illuminating the truth or justice, just winning And those with the biggest pocketbooks doing most of the winning, along with ultra-expensive legal counsel?

So, seeking long-overdue legal redress is a fraught and pointless exercise where the old boy's club, privilege and a sense of entitlement reign supreme?

If however, the available evidence could be tested with unbeatable space ae lie detection? It might be different?

That said, a very convenient, alleged suicide, has prevented at least one witness from testifying! EVER!

I'm not saying it's homicide set up to look like a suicide? But given the powerful players involved? I'm not completely ruling it out?
Alan B.

... willing & happy participants suddenly become rape victims ...
Hasbeen,
The trend also reveals that only blokes with money are rapists, the poor old blue collar jockeys don't appear to be afflicted with that gene !