Yuyutsu,

Your statement:

"...gays are a rowdy and provocative lot
who make a lot of fuss around sexuality and believe
that everyone should know and care about their
sexual issues..." is stereotyping. Your post indicates
that you believe that all gays share the same supposed
traits and that is simply not true.

Try again.

Dear Foxy,

If a person does not fuss or make a provocative big deal about their sexuality, like for example parading around the streets telling everyone, "look I am [hetero/homo/who-cares]sexual, it's great, look at my body, you should try it too...", or like making a political issue around it, then they are not gay.

One could still be sexually attracted to others of the same gender and still act on this attraction by having sexual encounters with them or even marry them, but so long as they are not gay about it, one thing they are not, is "gay".

Sexuality is an affliction, a disturbance of the mind. We may have to live with it and make allowances for it, but it's not something to be proud of or jolly about.

I was just reading about something called "Deadnaming".
Apparently it is an offense in the UK as a man has been questioned by
the police on the matter. You are guilty of this if you refer to a
transgender person by their birth name. Seriously !
Also he was warned by the police that referring to this person as "he"
makes him guilty of harassment !

It is hard to keep up with the infection of insanity across the UK.
Not these offenses in particular, but other such crazy laws are
actually resulting in people being imprisoned.
Some of the things that are written here on OLO would have the police
knocking on your door. The Greens and Labour have similar opinions
on such language.

Yuyutsu,

A couple of things for your information:

The Oxford and other dictionaries tells us that
the term "Gay" meaning homosexual became established
in the 1960s . It is now the standard accepted term
throughout the English-speaking world. The old-term
of "gay" meaning "carefree," "bright" and "showy"
has more or less been dropped out of natural use.

As for sexuality being an "affliction?" - I really don't
know why you would think or suggest that. But, then -
I don't know you. You could be right in your case.

However, gay men and women don't view their sexual
orientations as "afflictions." The only afflicting going
on is done by intrusive, judgemental, heterosexuals.

If you are gay - it's just who you are, as heterosexuals are
just who they are. There's a good body of evidence
validating that.

See you on another discussion.

Cheers.

biology disagrees with you Foxy. If you have same sex attraction and then have sex its an act of homosexuality. If you are attracted to a man or woman who is not your husband or wife and you have sex its called adultery. If you have a desire for kids it becomes paedophilia when you act on these impulses. 'Gay' is just a hijacked word.

If you are gay - it's just who you are, as heterosexuals are
just who they are. There's a good body of evidence
validating that.
Foxy,
same then goes for kleptomania & let's see how people react when they find stuff missing.