Does anybody have experience with the seven year itch?

I've been married for 50 years. Being human, I had the itch a few times, but I never scratched it. I don't think that enough marriages last 7 years these days, so it probably doesn't apply any more.

I assume you're referring to the 'pon farr'. Don't worry, it only afflicts Vulcans. Also, it's fictional.

http://memory-alpha.wikia.com/wiki/Pon_farr

Actually Dan I think it is a disease suffered more by females, although they will never admit.

Their instincts tell them to get another set of genes or two, just in case her first pick was not much good for survival of hers in the offspring.

Hasbeen et al

*…Their instincts tell them to get another set of genes or two, just in case her first pick was not much good for survival of hers in the offspring…*

Interesting concept. Your right to a point. Life is all about reproduction and survival.
But there is a huge difference between the ability of sons and daughters to reproduce.
This is what Pinker says:

“…Although sons and daughters are expected to yield the same number of grandchildren on average, the “maximum” number that each sex can promise is different.
A super fit son, says Pinker, can outcompete other males, and impregnate any number of women, and thereby have any number of children: Whereas, a super fit daughter can have no more than the maximum she can bear and nurture in her reproductive career…”

So a woman's motive is to aim for quality in reproduction, whereas the focus of the male is to aim for quantity.

Societies influence in this natural phenomenon is to focus on stability of relationships, such as ttbn and his fifty years shacked up with the same chickybabe.

So now the seven year itch takes on a new meaning!

"So a woman's motive is to aim for quality in reproduction....".

For too many females, the aim is to be bosses and soldiers, and lord it over males, despite their inability to do either. It used to be that males got the itch, and left the nest; now the sisters are doing it with a vengeance. 'The future is female' as the T-shirts advertise. The future will be an awful mess.

I'm on my second marriage, my first wife committed suicide, but my second seems to be going along quite well. That's despite the fact I'd be a hard bugger to live with. There again my second wife is the direct antitheses to me, highly educated, while I'm stupid. Perhaps her only reason for our marriage, was for her to have the opportunity to study (forensically) deviant behaviour in poorly educated males?

o sung wu

'There again my second wife is the direct antitheses to me, highly educated, while I'm stupid. '

enough self loathing o sung wu. Just look at how the education system dumbed down so many. They actually think the big bang can be proved by science, believe man can control the climate, get the country into billions of dollars into debbt claimning they saved us from a diaster and the list goes on and on. Just remember its the 'educated' now dumbing down schools, destroying our economy, importing illegal crimminals, can't tell a kid with a penis is a boy, etc etc etc Please stay stupid!

Hi there RUNNER...

You're so right, there are distinct advantages of being stupid. A man and boy are both males; as are women and girls, are both females. Who's got the right to interfere with nature's work eh?

Wasn't the function of our schools to teach our young, how to read, write and undertake basic arithmetical calculations. Moreover they should be teaching science; history; geography; and some of the basic technical skills like; wood work or working with metals; and basic technical drawing.

At my High School they even taught a subject called Economics, a great introduction for those students who wished to pursue Accountancy as a career - these 'modernists' have a lot to answer for, they really have. Most of 'em should be run out of town on a pole in my opinion.

Ttbn <it used to be that males got the itch, and left the nest; now the sisters are doing it with a vengeance. 'The future is female' as the T-shirts advertise. The future will be an awful mess.>

I see no proof, that the countries presently under male dominance around the world are anything but miserable, overpopulated, poverty, disease stricken, war zones. In fact it’s the countries that have more female equality, in the world, like Europe, and Western countries that everyone from around the world are desperately trying to get into, because they are better run, advanced beautiful,
cultured zones.

The western countries, though have been pushed to extinction, because they did not adequately fund women for doing the most important job in the society, having children for the nation. Nor did they give women the respect and status the job should have had, Rich men at the top in corporations etc paid the biggest salaries to themselves, not families. Women had to walk away from having more than one or two children, because to do so, was to end up at the struggling end of the economic wealth of the nation, plus it put the double burden on them of trying to hold a full time job with the added responsibility of all the work required to care for the children.

I know of one woman, who would come home from a full time job and attend to 4hours of the childrens requirements for meals, baths, homework, clothes for school and never get to bed before 11.00pm or 11.30pm.

The more children a woman was to have, the more hours this double,work shift would require. The fact that men still don’t get this, and accuse women of being selfish in walking away, from unpaid work(slave labour),Being totally financially dependant on the whims of selfish, emotionally incapable, of marriage, males. Says they are still too stupid to run societies.

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The seven year itch?

Yes I have been briefly tempted to stray a few times.
But I've never acted on it. I, like many people have
been thoroughly socialised into the expectation that
romantic love will "conquer all" and make their marriage
happy ever after. But the heady joys of romantic love
are usually short-lived, and the excitement of the
earlier relationship is lessened somewhat in the daily
routines of job and housework, nappies, and dishwashing,
mortgages and bills.

This does not mean that the partners no longer love one
another; it is just that their love is likely to be
of a different kind. It can be mature, companiable,
intimate, committed, and deeply fulfilling - but I
guess many of us are not socialised to recognise or
appreciate this change. Many believe that romantic love
is the only possible basis for a successful marriage,
many people lose faith in their marriages and may start
looking for romance elsewhere- especially those in their
"mid-life" crisis like - Barnaby Joyce, Karl Stefanovic,
just to name two.

I agree that women should rewarded/encouraged for their childcare. Children need their mothers more than anything or anyone. The need is critical up to the of 5, when now childcare is being contracted out to strangers. And no: fathers are not a good alternative. Swapping roles doesn't do it. Just my opinion, but I think women have got it back to front by having children later for the sake of work; kids first, work later is the way to go.

If blokes aren't feeling the 7 year itch, there must be something wrong with them. They are married aren't they.

Marriage has been describes as the worst hire purchase agreement on earth for a bloke. It costs everything you have down, & everything you earn for the rest of your life. You never actually own the product, & worse you aren't even allowed to trade the old one in for a new model, when the old one no longer fulfils your requirements.

That romance bit is the trap nature has given her. She's all over him like a rash, can't get enough of him, throws him into any bed she can find. He can't believe his luck. He has found this highly sexed goddess of his dreams. He can't wait to get married, & have her forever.

Sorry mate, but you'll have to sell the boat, & the 4WD, we need the capital for the house deposit, & they cost too much to run anyway.

A couple of years later & little Mary & John join them. There is no money to replace the family car.

A little later, she is never home. Mary is brilliant, & must have dance & gymnastic lessons. John is a great sportsman to be, so has football training, & horse riding lessons on Saturday. It is hard, fitting all that in with her gym nights, not to look good for him, but to outdo that slim bitch down the road.

If he can catch his ex goddess as she flits by, she might even have another, then he will be reduced to the total shame of driving a people mover.

No wonder some blokes develop a 7 year itch.

Be honest Foxy, you do recognise the syndrome don't you?

Dear Hassie,

You paint a somewhat different scenario from the one
I have experienced. In my marriage we have worked side
by side throughout our entire marriage. We've managed to
both work full time together, as well as raise our family
together. My husband has also encouraged me pursuing
my studies, and fully supported me in completing them.
I've supported him in his travels, and business ventures.
It's been a full partnership in every way.
I've read about some women with-holding sex from their
husbands for a variety of reasons. I could never do that.
Well, I suppose I could, but that would be punishing myself.
Anyway, I suppose each of us is different and we deal with
things in our own ways. I count my blessing daily.

Foxy I'm surprised you couldn't detect my tongue in my cheek.

My lady & I have been together 46 years, & have done a great deal together, other than clutter the Whitsundays with kids.

Dear Hassie,

At present I'm having to deal with lawyers, deceased
estates, and so forth - as a result of mum's passing.
It's a different world - and one in which I am
forced into seriousness. So many rules and regulations.
So bear with me.

Hi there FOXY...

Whenever I hear of someone who I have an enormous regard for, has a need to deal with our friends in the legal profession, they immediately have my most profound sympathies. As do you with the sad passing of your dear mother. One thing, generally speaking the laws of succession offer no real obstacles or impediments for the most part, so I should think you'll sail through it all, without too much difficulty I would've thought. So the best of luck FOXY is all that I can say!

My best wishes to Foxy. I understand the process can make your sense of humour slip a little. I had all that about 4 years back now.

I developed an increased dislike of bankers, solicitors & undertakers in the process.

Dear O Sung Wu,

It's been a long drawn out process - hopefully it
will end soon. I just want closure and to be able to
move on.

Dear Hassie,

I'm trying very hard to be patient and to stay positive.
But honestly - some people ...
I fully understand your dislike of the so called "professionals"
you mentioned.