I would like to bring up a
discussion about marriage.

What does marriage mean to you?

Is being married important or not?

And why?

Would you deny this to others, such as
Gay people - and why/why not?

I don't want to make this discussion simply
about Gay marriage. What I don't understand though
is for people to whom marriage is important -
why would some of them then deny it to others?

Fox, "I don't want to make this discussion simply about Gay marriage"

LOL Of course you do!

Marriage is primarily about intention to bring up children as it is the only stable building block of society in which children are properly nurtured by their natural genetic parents. I see the emotional destruction of children by separation, divorce and dysfunctional households. Children not seeing loving relationships of parents and having close loving relationships with each parent on a daily basis breeds future emotionally dysfunctional adults.

The problem with one gender adult carers is children do not establish intimate bonds with the missing gender essential for a healthy society.

Hi Foxy, you have no real chance of rational debate with this one you know :)
I will try though.

I was overjoyed to get married, because I feel it shows more of a commitment to a relationship than living together, which I was doing before we married.

I felt more secure and connected to my husband after we married, and I preferred my new surname! Also, I have to admit, I wouldn't have had children until I was married because I had seen all sorts of legal drama re children with passports and after marital separation and remarriage, if they had different surnames from one of their parents.

If I were to divorce anytime from now on though, I wouldn't get married again.
I hope that is not on the cards though, after 28 years of marriage...

'Hi Foxy, you have no real chance of rational debate with this one you know :)


Certainly not with you on board Susie. You are still leaving 99% people puzzled over your willingness to make excuses/overlook rape by muslims in Europe. Tip. Look up the word rational.

I'll have to ask my wife.