seanw is unhappy.

On happiness,

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/04/17/down-in-the-dumps-garbage-pickers-with-a-happy-life/

The first action should be to be grateful, not in a superficial way, for what we have and the world around us.

Sit down with the missus, or alone if necessary and go through what is good. Keep at it and build the list.

Be present in the moment and give earnest, grateful thanks every day, to life. What does it take, 5-10 mins for The Box (which will do your head in if you take any notice of it).

To some that might seem a frivolous, time-wasting thing to do, to be really and truly grateful. It isn't though. It makes a world of difference.

I would like to thank all for the input.
Housoes has a lot to explain.
The job i have i walk ave 25kms per day. I do have a veggie garden, 60 lettuce ready in 6 weeks, also 9 chickens. I have been seeking extra work mowing lawns, as i have no problem building a lawnmower from scrap parts. My missus mows lawns now, well only 3. The 23 yr old is doing bricklaying apprentiship. The disabled 17 yr old is looking for work as a labourer, he is great.
I will not work for cash, everything legit. honesty is the best policy.
Live in the illawarra. 45yrs old.
I hope this is the correct way to respond.
thanks again

seanw,

Yes, it is the correct way to respond.

Now, how to get you into some new skills training is the problem eg light machinery operator. Your walking job doesn't sound as though there is any way up from it.

Any particular interests/passions you have that you have always wanted to have a shot at but haven't got around to? Maybe light machinery operation or something? Anyone you can go to to get advice?

Hi again SEANW...

Indeed a great response. You sound as if you're not idly standing by and allowing the grass to grow beneath your feet ! You seem to have a very industrious streak within you my friend, and good on you for that ! So I'm sure everyone here, will want to wish you all the luck in the world, in your strong desire to better yourself, not only for your own benefit, but for the long term welfare of your family. Good luck to you Sean !

Not clear if you won the custody case and if it was over the disabled kid. If it was you should get child support. If not you should be paying child support and THAT is a total disincentive for working.

But you will be getting a good family allowance for the kid I take it?

oooops sorry, I had only read to bottom of page 1 [drat the way this forum is set up] and you went on to explain later - so ignore last post