Foxy,
I bow to your experience in such matters. My experience is not very current occurring many years ago.
I only dropped in for a look and did not intend to post.
Should have kept my yap shut.
Time for 'off'.
SD

Dear SD,

I don't speak from my own experience, (fortunately),
but from those of leading researchers who've done
studies on violence among family members. Most of
the sociological studies were done in the US, and
it makes me really glad that I live in Australia.

Laz91 I find it imposable to forget your first post.
The words used the4 defense of perpetrators and your highlighting the Rolf Harris case.
Being a fan off him I remain confronted by the fact he MAY be guilty.
But too understand we all know sex offenders can look very normal.
I can not and will not retreat from my view such filth are unworthy of any protection.
Twice in my life I became involved in cases of this offense once very ling term.
Not far from me a young girl every fathers dream full of fun and laughter came crying like her heart was broken after her dad sexually used her.
That beut little girl died that day.
She lost that sparkle and suffers still years after.
The other was too very young very miss used by her dads drinking mates.
I never ever consider the back ground of a perpetrator.
It is the victim that matters

G'day Belly, Thanks for your comments. I know of two men who committed suicide after abuse of their children (one boy, one girl).Whole family left to suffer. Nasty business. So my posts Belly are not about protecting abusers as you suggest. but doing something about it.

Gday Laqz91 if you will allow me all most every one of the first half dozen posts here warned me you had trolled me.
That is put up a thread just to taunt a reply.
I highlight the difference between your first and last posts here.

My posts are so long I will try and keep things a tad shorter.
First 'Banjo'. 'Oh dear' was certainly not the first thought to enter my head. True children have been sexually abused for ever. In many societies its common place and will continue for following generations.
Maybe it is us fragile Westerners who just 'Feel so traumatized by early sex'. 'Oh dear' and you know that's not expressing my true feelings. In my early twenties, I could finally have a normal relationship with a man, in comparison. Was still considered a prude.
I didnt actually have sex when I was five, I was abused by my drunk family's drunk friend. All the years following I was a petrified child. My fear of men was not comparable to any fear Ive known. This however seemed like a red flag to my parents great drinking buddies. Good party trick, watch her crap herself. All the fun at my expense sabotaged any trust in anyone. For years, which to go into would be a book.
The man I'm engaged to, was also molested, on numerous occasions by a Brother at a boys school. Until the offender shared his intentions on 'getting your little brother next'. They were out of there. He was traumatized also, not hiding away from the world like me but the total opposite. Aggression and rebellion. 'p...er bashing'.
BTW as I became mums shadow (leach) I was exposed to her and her girlfriends, drunken, pot smoking porno mag sessions. Not winning.

Victims, lots of love and encouragement.
Violators, male or female, no punishment would be too much