Col:”It is in this book, Red Dragon that one of the characters is a psychopath called “the Tooth Fairy””.

Aw, gotchya. Not many child looks of wonderment compared to looks of distress and terror then.

“My lady is likewise (as yours) influenced by good dressing… she weighs in at 43 kg and is as fit as anything…”

Wow – she’d definitely be one that Fractelle described as looking good in anything.

Hilarious. Nice summary from Pericles.

For the record, I'm a middle-aged man who owns two suits - one relatively expensive tailored job and an off-the-rack less expensive model - that I wear when the occasion demands. And I have to admit that it feels quite good to dress up occasionally.

However, since I live in the bush about the only time they get dusted off is for funerals and the odd obligatory shindig.

The rest of the time I'm a jeans, jacket and boots kinda guy in winter, and a shorts, loud shirt and slides kinda guy in summer.

I have lots of hats though :)

Dear Fractelle,

I can't tell you how relieved and happy
I am to know that 'all's well that ends well,'
between us.

You're one of my favourite posters - and
whatever you do - please don't change your
posting style. I value your honesty and your
opinion.

As for some of the nastiness that gets mis-
directed towards you on OLO - we've all copped
bits of it. Sure it hurts. Anyone who says -
"Sticks and stones..." doesn't know what they're
talking about.

But for every 'nasty,' there's also some amazing
souls on OLO - that's what we need to remember.
They're the ones that keep us interested and
posting.

Take care

Foxy:"mis-directed towards you on OLO"

There's no misdirection - Fractelle tries hard to give as good as she gets, usually before she gets it, then whinges when serve is returned.

Ask yourself why I engage with you in a generally congenial manner, foxy, then ask yourself why the rather dimmer Fractelle gets "nastiness mis-directed" at her.

The difference is that you are able to conduct a civil conversation encompassing views you don't hold personally, whereas the fractelles of this world are all about "holding the line" on their entrenched views and see any deviation from those views as a personal challenge. That's what comes of spending "years in counselling" and self-obsession.

“… whereas the fractelles of this world are all about "holding the line" on their entrenched views and see any deviation from those views as a personal challenge. That's what comes of spending "years in counselling" and self-obsession.”

Oh Anti, you don’t like Fractelles posts because she will stand firm in what she believes? And if you don’t agree with her personal views she considers your argument a challenge?

I’m sure I argue the same way and I thought you did too.

Otherwise we are like a debate club who are handed a topic and personal beliefs or life experience aside we debate how we are told to. In fact isn’t spouting stuff one has no experience of just for arguments sake called trolling?

You are claiming counseling to be self-obsession, I thought it was self-help. Anti you are more grown up than this, if one of your children needed counseling I am certain you would back it up and encourage this positive step.

As for “entrenched”, most of us do find ourselves entrenched, stuck and helpless in some situations. Me with DoCS, you with CSA. Life didn’t seem to hand Fractelle a bowl of cherries either.

TPP:"you don’t like Fractelles posts because she will stand firm in what she believes?"

No, I don't like Fractelle because she has no capacity to argue for what she "believes" and seeks always to portray herself as a victim as soon as anyone challenges her. IOW, I think she's weak-minded and dishonest in her discussion methods as well as self-obsessed.

If she was a bloke I'd call her gutless.

TPP:"if one of your children needed counseling"

I'd counsel him or her, not send them off for years of narcissistic, no-end-in-sight navel-gazing directed by some dimwit who wasn't bright enough to do a real course of study so chose "social work".

Adults get on with things, they don't obsess over their responses to those things simply because someone who's being paid is prepared to sit down and listen to them drone on interminably.