runner: << It is a simple fact that most men are turned on by women dressing seductively >>

None more so than the Christian Taliban, as exemplified by you and Boazycrap. Fortunately, most normal men don't have clothing fetishes like you poor sods, and are able to contain our lusts and desires without resort to lunacy.

Pericles: << That sounds a remarkably familiar sentiment, runner. >>

Precisely.

I just love the honesty with the people on this site. Keep setting your traps. lol.

EVO

Defamation! The sharks maybe setting a trap for you. Always watch what you say!

( Have eyes in the back of your head.)

Now where were we? That's right!mmmmmmmmmmm?

EVO

Quite a few valuable insights.. things which are usually drawn out by pooling our wisdom :) wonderful.

Roberts point about 'where to draw the line' is a good one..and I have to comment.. "I really don't know".. in the words of some other poster I think the issue of personal taste does apply...

This is not a matter where we can come down hard and fast on.. we have no 'dress code' spefically in Christianity.. apart from the injuction to dress modestly.. and not to seek beauty through shallow external symbols like jewellery etc..

All of this would most likely be culturally relative to the times.

While Islam does have specific dress codes reflected for all time in the Hijabs and Nikabs Burkah's.. and the males with their loose fitting robes.. Christianity does not have such.

One aspect not yet identified by anyone that I read.. is the issue of marketing and economic forces.

One person said that the more skin exposed the less sexually stimulating it is.. quite true...but then we are faced with companies which seek to 'expand the barriers' along with artists.. primarily to sell dolls, music, clothes or art.

Of course this process reaches a point of diminishing returns.. and when everyone is walking around almost naked.. and there is nothing left to put clothes on... it needs to take a different tack..and usually does.

Shallow marriages are based on a focus on the external, the superficial...and sadly.... many people end up in such marriages.
Appealing to the sexual is a factor which can influence a persons choice by netting them (male or female) in a web of unbalanced 'physical satisfaction/intellectual/social frustration'.

We are free..yes, but lets not use our freedom as an excuse to induldge the flesh .. (Gal5:13)

Dear Polycarp,

I suggest you stop wearing Skimpy Clothes
and your marriage will improve.

All The Best,

“not to seek beauty through shallow external symbols like jewellery etc..”
Does that include a wedding ring?
Am I shallow ‘coz I love my Pandora bracelet? I had no idea that it was a ‘symbol’. But perhaps I had no idea because I’m shallow.
Does everything one owns have to be classed as a symbol?
A pretty vase on the table, pretty lace curtains, a well looked-after garden, a nice pair of sunnies, these are just things that can make a person appreciate art and beauty, skills and creativity.

I think every couple naturally draws their own line and I can’t be bothered judging other people’s lines, or how shallow or ‘deep’ they look. Don’t judge a book by its cover.

What do we need to do to appear less shallow? Not admire or own beautiful things?
Is looking at the beautiful wings of a butterfly or going bird watching superficial?
Is looking at beautiful clothes and fashion superficial?
Is appreciating and admiring the architecture and lead light windows of an old church shallow?
Why would some things be superficial and shallow and not other?
Isn’t superficiality personal anyway- something that is shallow and superficial to one person might be meaningful to another.

People are physical beings, I like doing or/and enjoying physical things on a physical earth. And I prefer to like the things I wear and have around me, and the people too, no matter what they wear.

Mostly I wear clothes for comfort (like my old fleece pyamas that are 2 sizes too big but utterly comfy), and style and colour, but comfort always comes first. You would never see me wobble on high heels, I don’t find that comfortable, even though they look nice.
Luckily I’m quite tall so I get away with low heels- oops, what a shallow thing to say.