Hi everyone!
I often bump into people who give the aire of wanting to be alone, people who have experienced a brush-off more than just once and others who have gotten themselves into such a rut, they live their lives as only they know how to and eventually leads to depression.

I met a person who used to love animals, kept to himself, never had friends and was the nicest person anyone could meet, he was was what we call a loner and was not interested in anyone else and for this. he was ridiculed. Then I realised something, he loved animals for the fact of them being non-judgemental, people do this.

It is not a bad thing to want to be alone, it's a perogative within us and people must not judge another over his/her preference.

Why do people think this is wrong?

I guess I am one of your lonely people. I just pop in here to read and pop out again. Why? because I know there is always something here. My husband (of 22 years) died earlier this year so I have a couple of sites I just go to and look, just to keep in touch with something that is constant. I have a great job helping people who are less fortunate than myself, many of whom have mental health issues....I have 2 wonderful grown up daughters and a grandson and lots of great friends, however I still get lonely. There are alot of lonely people out there, it is how you deal with the lonliness that makes or breaks you. If anyone reading this feels lonely please talk to someone ..anyone...no matter how trivial you think it is as lonliness can lead to chronic depression and you may not even realise it until it is too late.

SPANKY observe this thread it talks about modern Australia.
Post 50,s and 60,s that is, we walk away from people who display pain not toward them.
Maybe it is a self protection thing, I think it is, but we do not publicly get involved with people we think are different.
We are indeed a poorer country for that.
I do truly think a conversation starter like that badge further up the thread could help some.
Each and every one on this forum could add to the ideas but few want to look as if they may be lonely.

Dear Callie
if I can add to your post.. yes.. by all means 'speak' to someone...

but PUH-LEASE don't let it be about "OH..I'm alone.. I feel depressed"

That would give the other person the impression that you are a self pitying individual wallowing in it.... and repulse them quick smart.

We have to take the bull by the horns..and simply admit...to ourselves "yes..I'm lonely..I need people contact" and then.. prepare ourselves as best we can to be interesting.. and GO FOR IT.. get out there.. interact.. have views.. reasons for those views.. get commITTED to 'something'...and be genuinely committed to it... and things will fall into place and life will become wonderful.

You know... a little personal anecdote from a few days ago.
I got out of my car at my kickboxing gym.. was in a rather cheerful mood (as I mostly am) and looked up to see a nice looking young lady moving towards her car next to mine. I must have had some kind of a smile on my face, because she spontaneously smiled... making me double take and said "Oh..sorry..I thought I knew you" to which she replied.. "No..I just noticed you looked so friendly" :)

If I'd had 'I'm deeeeepreSSED' written all over my face.. I guess it would have gone differently.

Greetings Belly!
Hope all is well with you and thanks for your kind words.

I have met many a lonely person and actually found the person just needed an ear to listen.
It's amazing what one goes through in life, what seems like a walk in the park to one person, it's like the end of the world to another and all that was required, was some human contact, thats all.

No-one can begrudge another persons feelings, way of life, because it's the way of life that sometimes causes us pain and heartache, causing us to withdraw and in severe cases, become recluse.

We often judge, when we ought not to, again, the lives we lead, money, power and the feeling of being better than the next one, I do not know who or what gave us humans the right to neglect another, nor to ridicule anothers status in life.

Some of us do give a damn!

boazie
Little Buddy
Well Here is one for you- How about you go and preach to that obtuse Steve Fielding of Family First.
He wasnt listening to RSPCA or another church Mininster or pale.
How discusting! family First have not even the manners to reply after the CEO RSPCA QLD a Leaders rep and Mininster From The Catholic Church flew from Queensland to Melbourne.
We have written that man for FOUR YEARS - asking his policy on the cruel live export trade?>
No Reply
He didnt even have to manners or concern to reply to the leading Church Minister.
Remember these are the so called CHRISTAIN LEADERS who are supposed to show some leadership.
Family First and Steve Fielding DONT HAVE AN ANIMAL WELFARE POLICY?
For Christ Sake how hypictrical to turn your back on the suffering of millions of Gods creatures then say you represent God.
He might represent your church but NOT God.
I love God but hate the two faced grants grabbing , money hungry so called christian Leaders in this country.
So David Please go and preach the word of God to that lot - thats you so admire
Shame on them.