peter it seems that you wanted but failed to assess your mum\mother to reasonable standard to be useful to you...this may help...

the full range of where she may lay is 'hollywood mother image' we see repetitively on tv dramas\movies, gentle caring supportive harmless women- to other extreme of queen snake of her domain which we never see in full extent on tv/movies, ie her home wherein all who born or live in relationship with her is her possession to do as she wills for her own pleasure and benefit and act to live with fear of her...best is assume your mother at middle of this extremes...

then answer following;
-did she help you develop your own 'body_space' and how to be confident within or invaded it constantly by telling you what to do,wear,talk,think...
-do you remember/think about your childhood ie 6 and less, and relate well to children 6 and less(you have to become a child yourself to relate well)...if yes then you had happier childhood, if not then you lived in fear and insecurity and your psychological defence is blocking memory when totally dependent, primarily on your mother(makes for control over child)...
-when trying to resolve problems with her, did she acknowledge her facts and faults and 'public image'she put on...or stick to critical attack and self 'blameless/other peoples faulty image'

I think now safely know which side of scale your mother was/is...and divide scale on each side to 3parts, then if you want see where more detail with further questions...

why all this...if each moment of your life you dont feel your emotions responding in its full and free range...ie feel half alive, or 'lost your humour' etc then childhood becomes very important to deal with to get on path to emotional recovery...and yes mother/mum features big here positive and negative but she will rarely tell you what she really did to you...

Sam
Ps~if she was in the wrong half...then state exactly what she was...dont add or take away anything...and feel yourself healing and air around your life clearing...

The author of this article speaks in the perspective of his own experiences. Times have changed and so has the mother-son relationship. In the current climate I know of no mother who wants to tie their son to their apron strings. We try to grow them up to be independent, critical thinking adults who take responsibility for their own actions. We desperately want them to be successful adults who can operate in the real world.
Above all we don't not want them to be inwardly thinking, navel gazing
airheads.

Thanks to a very usual negligence and illiteracy of local medical professionals my mother-a very practical and active more-than-three-decade-experienced doc herself, passed away much younger then 95-y.old, and although relations were seemingly steady, her children feel themselves simply ignored by her lack of an elementary attention to a family future factually.

Perhaps, people should base their relations on this world realities rather than relaying on any type of future reincarnation, neither in Catholic nor other families.

""Perhaps, people should base their relations on this world realities rather than relaying on any type of future reincarnation, neither in Catholic nor other families""
Posted by MichaelK

Wot?

Men and their Mothers: Comments?

Don't get me started..............

onemack's "Wot" is exactly this topic what of is.