The author said:

<<as “postmodern” men and women are forced to keep up with a culture that can’t keep still or hold its shape, a culture which - as Zygmunt Bauman, the poster boy of contemporary social theory, might say - is preoccupied with “moving on” and “letting go”.>>

I'd love to just say "I rest my case"... but that would be too easy :)

Can anyone deny the influence of existentialism in this attitude of "moving on"?

Can anyone deny that when such values permeate our society, the obvious outcome is instability, fractured relationships, selfishness and the moral equivalent of the old 'mouse traps and ping pong balls' chain reaction experiment.. all balls go off in different arbitrary directions? They collide with others.. causing more eruptions, etc...

"MIUAUG" is alive and well.. *preachhh bruthah....testifyyyy*

Yep.. we have reached a point of social degradation and moral disintegration for which the only solution is ....

Oliver, limmerance is nothing like Liberace at all for me. That is really funny. One is the sublime feeling of falling in love, the other a flamboyant old queen hammering away at the piano, going 'look at me,look at me'.

Runner “brainwashed by secular humanism are likely to be leaders in our nation.”

Ah yes, the “masses” will follow lawyers, students and check-out chicks to the ends of the earth.

As for “brain-washing” what alternative do you suggest, brainwashing by a paternalistic theocracy?
That’s been tried and ended up with witch burnings and inquisitions.

“Maybe we need Islam in order to wake us up to our stupidity.” You might.

I figure you would be easier to ignore if you wore a bhurka and had a husband or brother who slapped you around, maybe a honour killing would fix your problems (your own).

Vanilla the difference between a slut and a whore, whores do it for cash, sluts give it away from free and runner might possibly need to offer a fee.

Oliver “Liberace” usually comes up with a pillow biting piano player, now expired.

Darn it… palimpsest beat me to it

Love is something of the moment.

I love the woman I am with today. I have loved others in the past and some have loved me too.

However, a fatal flaw is to compare the love of one to the love of another.

It’s a bit like asking “was that the best you ever had?” – if you need to ask the question, the answer is in the negative.

the best thing about people is their individuality. Each is unique and many lovable simply for their imperfections.

Col Rouge writes
'Love is something of the moment.' You obviously confuse lust with love.God help kids who might have you loving them one moment and then dumping them the next.

Perfection does not exist we need to build a bridge and get over it.

To be honest I don't know what the author is trying to say. He seems to think that it is women that suffer from this wanderlust and in the stroke of a pen forgets about all the women that have been left for that 'big bang' moment by men. Not that there is anything inherently wrong with that - some people are not meant to be together and inevitably hearts will be broken.

Perhaps the problem is that we have become a society that expects too much of the ones we love. Perhaps women (given the article mainly targets women) now have more choices and are acting just like men always have now that we are liberated (tongue in cheek).

Are unrealistic expectations anything new? I remember as a child of the 60s being brainwashed into thinking that a man would sweep you up on his white horse and take you away to live happily ever after. Some of the imagery may have changed but the message is much the same.

Pelican

I am with you on this article. I too was bemused by the point the author was trying to make. That women can be as contrary and fickle as men? Given that Joy Division's song was a hit back in the 80's, I can only conclude that it has taken the author close to 30 years to figure that one out.

Yep men and women fall in love, get scared of commitment and hearts are broken all round; makes for 3 hankie movies and Mills & Boon bodice rippers.

The only thing I gained from this article was the photo of the author - you are a spunk and if what you are after is a bit of rebound comfort... no promises though...