Personally I would consider it an honour if the Hollywood deviants were criticising me Mr O.

Hey AyameTan,

"I'm glad you don't see hitting as a 'first resort."

Make them do pushups first, so you've got time to calm down, ensuring you don't treat them unfairly in a state of anger.
Then use that time to think up a more fitting punishment.
They'll learn young they can't wind you up and mess with you, and that you'll just make it worse for them.

There's pro's and con's for every argument, often people don't spend enough time thinking about a valid argument from the other side.

Animals in the wild bite their young to teach them how to act, probably to ensure their survival from predators.

I think not smacking them when you should can potentially have just as much damage;
They need to learn when they're young that actions have consequences and this is essential for their survival.

So yes, if your kid doesn't listen and bolts out across the road in front of cars, smack their ass good enough to hope they don't forget it.

"Why would it do anything except encourage them to solve problems with violence?"

They learn 2 behaviors, 'respect your parents', and 'tit for tat'.
This is an issue they have to respect you on, and it's not unfair.
It's not going to tip then into dysfunctional behavior on it's own unless you're already smacking them for everything else.

And it's not necessarily wrong to solve problems with violence, it just depends on which ones.
Think of an valid example where it would be ok to do so.

What if you were out after dark with a partner, child or loved one and were attacked?
Would it be ok to solve THAT problem with violence?
Would it be better if you and your family were harmed?

If you don't want them to solve problems with violence, then treat them fairly so they learn that respect is a two way street.
Ensure they're well grounded and well adjusted, and well prepared to live their own lives as they grow up and hopefully they wont have any need to solve problems with violence.

Bazz, do you really think having children you can't afford is "responsible"? You're either very rich, very naive, or very stupid.

"According to a 2016 study, the average cost of raising a child from birth to age 17 is $297,600 for a typical middle-class Australian family [1].

Even so, this cost can vary from household to household based on a variety of factors. Depending on the income bracket of the family, this cost will vary, with lower income families spending less on raising their children on average and higher income families spending more [2].

And the news gets worse: while the average cost of raising a child has increased by 45% in the past ten years, average household incomes have only increased by about 23%, which means the cost of raising children is growing at double the rate of our average incomes [3]. Future projections estimate that this disparity between child-raising costs and household incomes will become even steeper.

Studies have found that one potential reason for the rise in child-raising costs could be the changing community expectations of what children need in order to live a healthy lifestyle. Healthy eating and exercise costs are driving these lifestyle costs up in an effort to combat health concerns that weren’t as prevalent ten to twenty years ago, such as childhood obesity and diabetes."

https://www.budgetdirect.com.au/blog/the-cost-of-raising-a-child-in-australia.html

runner, just said:

'Personally I would consider it an honour if the Hollywood deviants were criticising me.'

The Hollywood deviant he is referring to is Bette Midler.

runner, have you mentioned this to your psychiatrist?

Armchair, please stop comparing children who don't want to clean their rooms with a violent mugger.

Homework is hard. Chores are hard. Have you tried solving algebra? It only gets harder. You have a choice, though.

Buy your children a programmable calculator, or watch them collect welfare for the rest of their lives.

The choice is yours.

Bazz: if children can read, they can be reasoned with. If they can't read by the time they're five, you've failed as a parent. The least you can do is work as their servant for the rest of their lives.

You might like being lectured to Mr o by self opinionated promoters of perversion. I'll take my advice from our Creator.

straight from Wikipedia

'She came to prominence in 1970 when she began singing in the Continental Baths, a local gay bathhouse where she managed to build up a core following.'