<We live in a society that dictates sexuality in terms of what gives men pleasure
< not women.
Posted by Killarney, Sunday, 12 April 2015 12:52:13 AM

What a total load of utter nonsense. Virtually all the women's magazines at some point have had information about women achieving orgasms. Then there is the joy of sex books, not to mention any number of workshops such as Tantric sex.

There is even a very special cunningligous technique.

Lately on TV there have been ads for Cougar Life.com.

<If you prefer to scapegoat me as the one doing the 'arm-wrestling' rather than the
<patronising, intolerant comments by men on this thread that women are 'not putting
out'
<enough, then so be it.
Posted by Killarney, Sunday, 12 April 2015 12:52:13 AM

Killarney maybe it is you who is the one who is doing the arm wrestling. But you can start without me as there is very little point in trying to discuss things with you. You perhaps even claim that men do not communicate, but may it is you who is not doing the listening.

"A large amount of my pleasure is from being able to give my partner pleasure."

Casanova

It may not be an exact quote, but it is close enough.

Reading through all the comments thus far, I wonder how many have actually bothered to read the article.

As a 'normal' bloke I enjoy seeing beautiful women and to be honest, the less clothes the better. I'm a child of the 60's, so prudishness is not in my nature. Like probably every bloke on the planet I've viewed porn on the internet and I have seen erotic images I would have never thought of in a million years. Some of those images appeared unexpected, even disturbing, and at the time I wished I hadn't seen them.

I've come to the conclusion porn is highly addictive, more addictive than any drug. Porn is readily available at any time of the day and it's free.

I suspect there are thousands of men who replace their inability to be in real relationships and/or failed relationships with porn and self gratification. I also suspect porn turns some men into psycho-sexual deviants. For some, porn may pollute of their psyche irreparably.

As a person with a somewhat addictive personality I choose to not look at porn any longer. I feel healthier not succumbing to the temptation to view porn when bored, or when there's nothing on TV or as reaction to an almost uncontrollable urge. This is my personal choice; it works for me.

Spirituality has always been a part of my life; not religion, religious dogma, or a particular faith. I believe we are all spiritual beings, even if we hate such a notion. I didn't see anything in the article that wasn't simply sharing a mature point of view on a risqué subject. I don't believe the author was preaching or pointing the finger. To me the message in the article was simply that there is more to life than porn.

I need no more than one good woman Suse!

Satisfying one is already enough, without looking for more pain or frustration.

I'm advised that women on top achieve more organisms than the old, slam wham thank-you mam, missionary position; unless it's practiced with the Lady on top and the male is the one in the gynecological examination position.

And you only start to move when your partner no longer can; to extend her pleasure for far longer, and make it more intense; and her completely paralyzed with pleasure.

And given the natural reactions of a woman experiencing a full blown organism; the best ever sex a man can enjoy; and once experienced, everything else is just never satisfying foreplay; albeit, the most essential part of satisfying sex for your partner.

So take your time, until have her begging for union, you sneaky B!

Moreover, in time it'll be the female partner asking, how you feeling hon?

There's an old Irish saying, a woman happy in bed is a woman happily wed. And the Chinese would add, a happy wife is a happy life!

Just don't mistake lust for love. Which inevitably leads to one day waking beside a complete stranger you may not even like, breakups and partners blaming the other.

You do need some physical chemistry, to be sure, but genuinely liking someone and friendship is more important at the start!

In all those porn films or movies, is someone's daughter, sister, mother or wife!

And if you like that sort of thing, then imagine its your wife/mother/daughter being used so very badly; and just to earn money!

Besides, why be a spectator, when you can be an active participant!

And there's nothing more erotic than watching a fully aroused Lady working her special magic on you on top!

Just be certain that's what you BOTH want; and for all the right reasons; and you are BOTH FULLY PREPARED to accept all the possible consequences!
Rhrosty.

I see Robert still in denial our adamic natures. Attack the messenger because you have no answers. Pathetic!

ConservativeHippie,

Just a reminder to a child of the Sixties that sex censorship was the chosen strategy, the thin edge of the wedge, to achieve the desired broader censorship to hide government decisions.

History easily repeats itself where lessons of the past are forgotten.

While I agree that there is some pornography that ought be unlawful, where it affects minors and bestiality for examples, the freedom of speech that is a protection against tyrants requires access to information.

In the Fifties the censorship that was ramped up during the world war was deliberately carried forward by vested interests who did not want to be questioned and held responsible for their decisions and corruption in peacetime. That includes the churches of course, whose power and socio-political legitimacy (as chronic dabblers in social policy) depended on broad censorship. Sex censorship was a well publicised but secondary concern - of the Roman Catholic church for instance.

There are parallels in present times and example could be the sex-obsessed feminists, who are wowsers and very much into sex censorship. -However that serves more the crucial objective of not being questioned on anything, ie censorship, because their ideology is based on very flawed premises and they know that!

Scratch an activist pushing sex censorship and usually you will find an authoritarian with something to hide and a vested interest in NOT being held accountable.

Sex censorship is the thin edge of the wedge.