Hi Jay,

I'm not sure that you understood what I posted earlier -
so I'll repeat it here for you. Here goes -

Each society views its own patterns of marriage
as self evidently right and proper, and usually
as God-given as well. Much of the current concern
about the fate of modern marriage stems from
this kind of ethnocentrism. If we assume that
there is only one "right" marriage form, then
naturally any change will be interpreted as
heralding the doom of the whole institution.

It is important to recognise therefore that there
is an immense range in marriage patterns,
that each of these patterns may be, at least
in its own context, perfectly viable,
and above all, that marriage, like any other
social institution must inevitably change through
time, in our society as in all others.

Your attitude is perfectly explainable - given
your circumstances and to you makes perfect sense.
We all understand that. But of course this does not
mean that we agree with you. The same as I don't
expect you to agree with me. Individual
differences are part and parcel of our society,
afterall.

cont'd ...

BTW - I'm not advocating any sort of "religious stance,"
you obviously did not understand my earlier posts.
And of course religious stances are not
inclusive. Neither is yours for obvious reasons.