And ... what are we to do with this?

I have a problem with a sexually experienced girl suddenly responding to, me too, in her fifties.

As she says, she was complicit and consensual. If not a technical adult, behaved as if she was?

Her own moral values or lack thereof contributed to the enduring relationship. Which ended with a whimper not a bang. Sorry, the pun was unintended.

Had she been a 14-year-old virgin like the damaged boy she referred to, would have had more sympathy for her, me too, position.

I was just nine years old! With no parental protection to turn or report to!
Alan B.

if I was you I would be repenting of my immorality. Sounds like your school had a complete culture of debauchery.

Verity trying to rationalise your responses as a teenager from the position of an older woman is a bit of a silly game to play. It appears you are trying to relive the excitement of a young girls sexual experiences, from the perspective of a some what jaded woman.

It has always been thus, since people started living together in groups. Some young girls, [& women] will use their attractiveness to lure older men, & some older men will use their position to lure young girls & women, & probably always will.

I think you are giving this too much credence. Perhaps you were hurt when your relationship ended, but would it have been any different if your partner was a boy your own age?

I think a lot of women suffer more than men from the "is this all there is" syndrome. Assured from childhood that you would get married, have children & a house, & this would be fulfilling, after 25 or 30 years many think they have been sold a pup.

As you appear to be doing, I sometimes look back & think what if. What if I/she had/hadn't done something, where would I be today. Hell I might have even been a stuff shirt pillar of society, rather than a worn out old reprobate, with fantastic memories.

Just remember we are a product of our experiences. That experience helped make you who you are. If you like who you are, be thankful for the experience. I have been hurt, & probably hurt some along the way, been frightened & elated occasionally, but I wouldn't intentionally change a minute of it. Try to develop the same attitude.

I always thought the teenage years were about learning about relationships & all that goes with it. Never did it occur to me to think of the apprenticeship of intimacy as abuse.
Like most people I had encounters that still make me wonder about myself, but they were a learning curve not an abuse. I have the strange feeling the meaning of the word abuse is not fully understood by many !

So we have an article called 'Triggered' written by a person using a Pseudonym which concluded with '#MeToo'.

I wonder what the authors motivations were for writing this.
Is it fashionable to be part of the feminist-victimhood crowd?
Is she trying to somehow have something good come out sharing her story with others.

What exactly is she saying?
What exactly does she want?
Why is it so?

The good thing about proclaiming victimhood is that you can just:
'Blame everyone else' for the way stuff turned out.

I feel as though she believes she was exploited; and it sounds like she kind of was;
Because it's not ethical for teachers to have relationships with their own high school students.
When those kids have finished school and are adults, I guess it's a grey area.
It feels like maybe the teachers are exploiting a position of community trust.
- And she can justify herself as therefore being a #MeToo victim.

On the other hand, and in truth maybe she wasn't really exploited at all.
Regarding her relationship was it not consensual because she too was getting something out of it?
Does the nature of it being consensual allude to her getting something out of it too?

- That she was exploiting the fact that SHE was the object of his affections for her own jollies?
Just as much as he was exploiting a young vulnerable and impressionable teenager for his jollies?

Didn't she like any of the other kids in her class or her own age?
What made her WANT to go off with her ex teacher and a bloke 10 years older than other boys her own age?