This seems to have been dictated to poor, simple Paul by a mad feminist.

By no means trying to destabilise the argument but hardly any mention is made of those women who incite conflict & even thrive on it until it back-fires. Then, they scream victim as loud as they can. And, yes, many men are morons when it comes to mentality towards good women !
I wonder how many good men have suffered at the conniving tactics of the women who use their looks as a weapon on their climb up the career ladder !

I apologise for the 'poor simple' bit. Uncalled for. But it's pretty pathetic when a male feels the need to carry on with utterly untrue drivel put about by nasty, bitter extremist females who do nothing to enhance respect for their sex. They are a minority - like all trouble makers - and they make quite enough noise without the help off pussy-whipped males.

Hi Paul,

Thank You for this discussion.

I've worked all of my life. Studied, raised a family,
with the support of my husband, parents, and even
friends, and colleagues, as necessary. I did not do it
alone so I can't take full credit for our family
choices.

We all make choices in our lives. I've never thought
much about messages regarding which sex is dominant
and about how men and women ought to behave.
I've managed to ignore the messages of mass media, from
television soap operas, to the lyrics of popular
songs, and what they emphasize.

Regarding my salary and job opportunities.
I've been very lucky. I've had tremendous help and
encouragement from my superiors and the organisations
I've worked for. In fact, I've been pushed to apply for
promotions and jobs that I would not otherwise have gone
for. So I really can't complain.

My husband and I have shared our roles and duties in
our family. We've been a team. And this has allowed
me to work outside the home, I've not felt any
constraints in my employment because of my gender.
I can only speak from my own experience. And, I
admit I have been very fortunate. I realise that
there are many out there not as fortunate.

Some women do find that "having it all" like the
rigors of pursuing their careers, maintaining intimate
relationships, and raising children, are difficult to
balance.

Some who put their career before marriage often find
that they have hit the "invisible ceiling" and face
the prospect of never finding a husband or having
children.

Also many women are dubious about the burdens of
being the perfect wife, mother, executive.
For these women - for the time at least, many feel
themselves stuck midway in a revolution that has run
out of steam.

I think today - people are exploring a wide variety
of roles in their personal relationships.
Today a person's individual human qualities,
rather than his or her biological sex is the primary
measure of a person's worth and achievement.

One of the biggest problems that couples have is the cost of child
care and that problem is the result of borrowing for a house on both incomes.
Back in the 70s the government made it compulsory for lending organisations
to lend on both incomes for a house loan.
That was thought to be a good idea.
Well all that happened was the price of houses rose to meet the amount
of money in the market.
Well why was everybody surprised ?
So now both incomes are flat out paying for the house but they now
have large bills for child care. No wonder the country can only survive
on high immigration rates. The third child is a no no !

sounds to me Foxy that you and your husband found/fell upon the right formulae for a happy life together.